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The pain of regret: a double egde sword.

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Written by Β Β 182
2 months ago

Actions birth consequences, regardless of whether we think of them as such. The repercussions of our actions(or inactions) always back fire accordingly, sometimes in the form of regret for something we've done to ourselves or someone in the past.

Regret is a double egded sword depending on how we choose to view it. Since the feeling of regret is birthed from mistake, it won't be far fetched to say that we all have things we regret doing (or not doing) since we all make mistakes and since regret only comes once we've realised our mistake, there's this pain that comes with it, especially if things go so wrong that there's no means to correct the damage that has been done.

We do things with ourselves that end up affecting us in the long run and then we regret our actions, we can still work to correct it when we realise our mistakes and the more we do the work, although after a delayed realisation, we end up feeling better, since it involves us alone. Example is when we regret all the times wasted in procrastination during our old days, but then decide to make amends by becoming productive. This type of regret are birthed from actions that involves mostly us and is more easy to dispel by forgiving yourself and striving to do better.

The greater form of regret comes from actions and mistakes that involves a third party, like when we hurt a person really terribly but being blind to that fact at the time of our bad attitudes, they leave or something else happen along the line that makes us comes back to our senses and then we regret. The thing with this form of regret is that, it is very hard to do away with especially when the attempts we make towards making things right with those we've trespassed against become in vain, like when they can't find a place in their hearts to forgive us or even say things that they otherwise wouldn't have said to us and when the bond keeps getting weaker and weaker until the point where it is no longer there, we go down the "had-I-Known" road. Now this point is very critical because that road of regret we take can soon become an abyss if care is not taken, taking us deeper and deeper into the depths of the pain of regret. It reaches a point where due to how deep we're in regret, we become blind to other things that could make us see the bright side of life again, leading us into depression and we end up doing more harm than we've done to that person, to ourselves.

The pain of regret, being the double edge sword that it is, can be used to better ourselves instead of letting it draw us into feelings of self hate. That pain can be a reminder never to repeat the mistakes we did that caused hurt to others and generally improve our state of well-being when we truly learn from that mistakes. We are bound to make mistakes as human beings and why repetitive mistakes can be a sign that we're trying to be better, one has to be careful if the mistake affects others so this type of mistakes shouldn't be repeated often and we should try our best to take as much lessons we can take from the first one as possible.

Do not drown in the river of regrets, whether or not the mistakes were intentional or not, as long as you truly regret your actions with all sincerity, which means you would try to avoid such mistakes in the future, then I guess that's all you need to move on.

Thanks for reading.

Yours Layly,

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This is what I say every time I see someone doing something wrong: regret is always at the end, so avoid doing things you will undoubtedly regret in the future. Sometimes we regret things we did but not the lessons we learned from them.

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1 month ago

You're right on that one. Although we're bound to have regrets since we are bound to make mistakes due to our humanness, we should avoid silly mistakes that will cause avoidable regrets and whatever the case leads to, we should always pick our lessons.

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1 month ago

You are welcome back to us and I wish to be with you for long time.

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1 month ago

Awwn thanks Shawon mee too

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1 month ago

The pain of regret, being the double edge sword that it is, can be used to better ourselves instead of letting it draw us into feelings of self hate.

This is the best we can do when we feel regret in the actions we have taken that ought not to have happened. We can learn when we regret and never to let such mistake occur again.

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2 months ago

You're right princess. It's up to us to choose what to make of it.

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1 month ago

That type of regret involving a third party is the worst, especially if that third party is a very close relative and you realize your mistake when they are gone from this world, it can be quite devastating to live with that guilt

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2 months ago

Exactly. Sadly I am currently living with that situation.

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1 month ago

when a person experiences remorse, that's when guilt is in him and wants to change it. the difficulty of changing the stifling because it always comes at the end of the story and can no longer be returned at the beginning of the story. often people have to suffer with mental pressure on themselves because of actions that have been done in the past, this can result in trauma to a person. admitting wrongdoing is the best way to others and to the Almighty.

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2 months ago

That's correct. The remorse can be a source of strength for the person who's done the mistake, and by all means it should be a source of strength.

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1 month ago

regret will always come last and everything that has happened will change our lives, whether we will understand it positively or negatively but this regret can provide meaning and also lessons so that our next life will be better.

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2 months ago

That's the point of it all. You definitely understand it Rean. It's up to us to choose how it affects us.

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1 month ago

I can remember when I did what I was not supposed to do, I regretted it badly and I had to keep thinking about it for weeks but thank God I am over it now. We shouldn't allow our regret to weigh us down, rather we should learn to avoid it next time.

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2 months ago

That's a good step. Regrets are a means to do better, not a hindrance as long as we're truly sorry for our actions.

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1 month ago

Exactly my dear Layla, regret is an annoying feeling that birthed from our mistakes and the consequences of our actions. We have to accept that, we as humans have the right to sometimes make the mistake, and we should not blame ourselves for that.

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2 months ago

You're right. They should push us to do better, not bring us down.

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1 month ago

Good to have you back 😏. You have been missed by yours truly 🌚

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2 months ago

Let yours truly now that they have been missed by yours Layly😏

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1 month ago

Smiled stupidly reading this. LoL

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1 month ago

Regret hurts alot, when you make mistakes you ougtht to learn from them. If you can't handle your mistakes then try to minimize them.

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2 months ago

That's right DanLawan. There's a certain level of growth that has to be attain before a person can even learn from his mistakes.

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2 months ago

Downing in regret has kept some people down for long when they are supposed to move, some believe that maybe they can go back in time, but that's an imposition, for now, that's why I don't think my fails too much, rather I check when I was wrong and move on.

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2 months ago

Our fails are meant to prepare us for the future, not suck us into it. Dwelling in regrets makes us everything but happy. I like how you approach the problem of regrets.

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