The world needs more of genuine love
More than anything, I think the world needs more of love, genuine love. The rate of suicidal deaths could be reduced, damaged people, broken people, mentally derailed people could be reduced if there's a bit more of love.
When you love a person, absolutely nothing on earth makes you want to hurt them. Nothing makes you want to cheat them, nothing makes you want to deceive them. Nothing makes you want to do anything that will cause them harm.
But does love really exist?
I've thought long and hard, does genuine love exist? These days spouses are deceiving each other, parents are maltreating and abusing their children, a lot is really going on...
Recently, I've even been thinking if I really want to be in a relationship or not. I've been through things and I've discovered too many things that has made me doubt the genuineness in any relationship these days.
You see someone in a committed relationship desperately and unashamedly trying to cheat and even cheating, feeding different girls lies, professing the same love to another girl and I'm wondering what sort of love triangle that is.
The rate at which people are manipulated (speaking of both genders here though I see more of female victims compared to the male)in the web of love these days is so alarming.
Married people take off their rings and turn single for a short while to woo a lady and have a taste of the cookie. Some even go so real and state their marital status but it baffles me how ladies have nerves to go ahead and get entangled with another woman's husband, no respect for God or for a fellow woman, it's really alarming.
The side of the story that breaks my heart is the part were men of God who were called by God to lead the lost, give hope to the hopeless, renew the strength of the weak, groom the young and prepare the church for the 2nd coming of Christ, boldly, without fear, mess around and still stand on God's altar to shout "God is good".
For this reason, the young have given up on holiness,purity, righteousness... Young people who are upholding positions in church are messing around and if you confront them they tell you that even the pastor is doing it so if you want to preach start from the leaders. 💔
I've been sick trying to comprehend a lot of things. How did we get here? How do we end this? Will this even ever end?
In time past, it was a thing of dignity for ladies to maintain sexual purity, today dare you tell people you're a virgin, 80% of the universe will mock you and make you feel very stupid.
And I Ask Why?
The world says we're evolving, "welcome to a new dispensation" they shout. An era where everyone is evolving and by evolving it means throwing away morals and good values that was handed down to us from generations before us.
By evolving it means "gone are the days God stroke people dead instantly for touching the covenant ark, we can do anything and get away with it"
By evolving it means Christ died and now grace is available, God's grace is sufficient unto all.
But "What shall we say then, shall we continue in sin that grace may abound?" Paul replied "God forbid!"
That someone is doing the wrong thing isn't reason enough for us to do that, we can not be doing something because everyone is doing it, that everyone is even doing it doesn't mean it's worth doing.
I Corinthians 10:23 Amplified version
All things are lawful [that is, morally legitimate, permissible], but not all things are beneficial or advantageous. All things are lawful, but not all things are constructive [to character] and edifying [to spiritual life].
If we love God, if we love people as we say we do, we will not do a lot of things we do to them.
We've been taught and shown the attributes of genuine love as Christians in the Biblical standard in 1 Corinthians 13: 1-9, 13.
New International Version
1 If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.
2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.
3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking,it is not easily angered,it keeps no record of wrongs.
6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love But the greatest of these is love.
Any love that doesn't posses any of these attributes isn't the genuine kind of love.
And On Romantic Relationships..
I have seen people say they love a person and they're in a relationship, later on they break up and most times when I ask why the responses I get to hear are mostly of physical outlook, the lady wasn't looking attractive, she's slim, or I hear she's not so educated, she can't speak English properly, she's poor, she's from a poor family, she doesn't dress well, she is not submissive and the list goes on and on...
I watched a movie one time titled WORLD APART, the protagonist Kenneth Okonkwo said:
"We should learn to make the people we love become the people we want them to be
People marry illiterates and make them educated
People marry drunks and make them stop drinking
People marry thieves and make them born again
If you want to marry a girl and poverty is an hindrance, let your life as a rich man influence her life and place her in a standard you want her to be
Love changes everything!
I quoted the lines, they're unforgettable. Sometimes I feel guys especially make flimsy excuses for leaving a particular girl. I read a post yesterday and the writer said anyone can be the one and I totally agree.
Any girl can be the girl for you and any man can be the man for you if you want him to be. We must always put effort in helping to mould people become what you want them to be. If we love them we can help change them.
Criticism doesn't help change people, judgement doesn't, gossip doesn't, hatred doesn't, grudges doesn't, love does and God does. The way we relate with people goes a long way in changing them positively or negatively.
And on submission
I'll say, submission is a response to being loved correctly. No man or woman will be submissive to a disrespectful partner, abusive partner, ungrateful partner, unfaithful partner. Submissiveness is never commanded it is earned. When you treat people right, love them right, they submit to your authority without much Ado but if it isn't so then submissiveness is near impossible.
In conclusion
Love is communicated through actions, it can be seen, it can be felt, it can be heard. If we act with love in our dealings with each other a lot of things can be avoided. Let's act in love, speak love, walk in love everyday of our lives. The world needs more of genuine love not manipulation, let love lead!
To you all who take out time to like, comment and upvote my post, I say a big thank you, your kindness is much appreciated.
Yes the world is evolving but there are still people who value genuine love.