Have you noticed that there are people with who you do not feel comfortable with not because you have anything against them but because you do not know or understand the type of life they live? Some persons are not known openly to be thieves but whenever they come around you, you will notice that something of yours is missing or has been stolen.
The truth remains that nobody will love to associate himself with a person he does not understand whether consciously or unconsciously, this is why it is paramount that we must work towards erasing everything that can cause people to doubt us at all cost.
You are defined by what you do and not by what you say even though sometimes you may succeed in deceiving people through the words you speak. There is always a time when you will not be able to hide your true self. This brings me to ask us this question. What do people say about you? If you are being truthful to yourself you will understand that people’s opinion about you matters especially whenever you are on the wrong path of life. You may have friends who will never see anything wrong in the bad things you do that does not mean that you are doing the right thing.
The truth is that every one of us knows and understands when we are not doing the right thing but the difference is that some will retrace their steps when they understand that they have gone astray will others will close their heart to the truth and continue in their wrongdoings. A man is known basically by the level of integrity he has built over the years and no one will feel comfortable to go into any form of dealings with someone with a doubtful character. I remember back in the days when I was still in the university, there was an incident that happened on one faithful day as we were about to round off for the day's lectures.
To me, that incident was an eye-opener because it made me have more understanding of human being, character and integrity. On that faithful day as we getting close to the end of the day, one of my coursemate whose name I will withhold for privacy sake started complaining that her money was missing and it was very obvious because few hours before then, she was seen arranging and counting some money.
As she raised the alarm, I quickly asked the course representative (class captain) to make sure that no one leaves the class. The reason I am talking about character and behaviour is that if people already have any reason to doubt you, you will always be the first suspect whenever a crime is committed. During the cause of the event, I noticed that the girl was already suspecting one of her closest seat neighbour who we all know to have a suspicious character.
As I was seriously trying to search every single guy while she the victim was searching the girls, I noticed how she was rushing through searching other girls because she had it up in her heart that it was that her neighbour who has stolen the money. As the search continued, she got to the girl's turn who I will say was her prime suspect but unfortunately for her, she did not find her money on the girl and this made her ask the girl where she hid the money. At that point, it became obvious to the entire class that the girl who was looking for her money was suspecting the girl, although we were all having the same feeling because of the girl’s character and kind of lifestyle.
That was when it became clear to the girl that she was the prime suspect and immediately she broke down into tears as she was trying to clear the air that she does not know anything about the money. As she was crying the girl who was looking for her money was busy asking her to provide the money but as I saw how genuine the other girl was crying and trying to pour her heart I quickly asked the other girl to continue searching for the remaining girls. As she reluctantly continued searching, all of a sudden she shouted and ordered the girl she was searching to bring out the thing she has hiding inside her pants.
The whole class was put in great chaos because the money was found on someone we all never imagined will do such a thing. Why did I tell this story? The other girl was accused because she had a questionable character which was why she became the prime suspect. I tell you my friends, whatever you do or say in life try not to give people the reason to doubt you for any reason.
You may not understand what it takes to build integrity but I tell you, any time your integrity is questioned, you will understand what it takes to build it. The whole class scenario made the girl who was first accused not to come to school for more than a week just because it became clear to her that she was not trusted in the class.
Remember that you are what you do and not what you say. Therefore, take every care of your actions at all times to avoid giving room for people to question your character which will make them not to feel comfortable to have any dealings with you irrespective of how genuine you might be.
I have a question, why there are some people that even you just met them once and completely stranger you are already annoyed with them. Even they are not yet doing or saying anything, you are no longer because you are already annoyed.