The number of times or words you speak among both friends and strangers goes a long way to determine the kind of person people will see you as. It is not out of place that we have seen people who are classified as talkative among others and I must let you know that it is better to be seen than to be heard both as a lady or a man. I write this article on this wonderful day and the first day of the new week because I think a lot of people are suffering from the consequences of been known as talkative or loquacious. For me to break this article for a better understanding of what it bears, I will start by asking us this question. What does it mean to be loquacious or talkative? The answer to this question is very vital in the life of every individual who wants to have a proper understanding of why and how others see you.
LOQUACIOUSNESS
The English dictionary defines it as the quality of being wordy and talkative. It can also be defined as the act of engaging in trivial conversations. Most times people tend to mix up outspokenness to loquaciousness. The two words are completely different in meaning but a lot of people misconstrue them. Outspokenness is the ability to freely express yourself without any form of constraint or insistence. This is seen in your ability to command your words and pass across the intended message with great boldness and vigour. It is the same as being loquacious. Anytime you notice that you are talking too much out triviality which will certainly make you say things that are not necessary, just know that you are being talkative and not outspoken.
In continuation, I will love to throw more light on what it means to be heard and to be seen.
TO BE SEEN
A lot of people have imprinted a lifelong image of themselves in the life of those that have come across them in one way or the other. This was made possible because they understood the power of being seen even when you are not present. Have ever heard people talking about someone who they have not met in person as though they have seen them? You will see the way they will describe this person with all the energy they have. Why is that possible, it possible because such persons have imprinted themselves in the heart of these persons through their attitude and character. Let me ask us a question that will lead us to a better understanding. What does it mean to be seen? It is a simple but very vital question. When I say “to be seen”, I do not mean the physical seeing of another person rather what it means is that people should be able to see your goodness, they should be able to see you practising that which you preach, they should be able to see you show kindness to others and they should also be able to see you live a life worthy of emulation.
We are in a world where everything and anything goes this has made a lot of people lose sight of what is most important in life. As we all know, a good name is better than wealth which is why no one takes it lightly with you if you slander their name. Let me ask you again, are you being seen or heard?
Let’s quickly look at the other one which is “to be heard”.
TO BE HEARD
This is the reverse of “being seen” and it has been one of the problems facing our generation at this point. The fact that everyone wants to be seen in our world today has become a frightening issue that must be looked at. No one wants to do what they preach rather people prefer to talk and not to do. Now, for a better understanding of what I mean by one being heard, I will want to ask a question that should be a direction to all of us on this matter. Have you ever felt deceived through the words of others? This question will lead us to understand the ills of living a life of “being heard”. A lot of us missed our way while in college because we listened to our peers without knowing that their words and deeds were not the same. This was more evident when young men will gather around to discuss their sexual escapades with the female folk, some who have not had anything to do with a particular girl who is seen as the hottest chick in town will be heard talking about how they were able to get her on their bed meanwhile, nothing of such happened.
It is not only in the circle of young men, it is seen among girls about how they brag about their escapades with the male folk. Now, the truth of this is that even in our society, it is well-known fact that an empty can makes the loudest of noise. How many times do you see those who have made it in life through hard work brag? What we see are people who are trying to survive brag about the smallest of the things they get and this makes it hard for them to achieve more. Anyone who takes his time to talk about things he is yet to do will always end up not doing those things because, by the time they end up talking, they will forget most of the things they said.
I decided to connect the woman folk to this article because I have learnt that a woman who has taken her time to make herself be seen will not need to announce to the people that she has arrived. Just as we see some of the events we go to. Those who are at the helm of affairs do not need to shout about their arrival because before they even arrive their deeds and accomplishment would have done the talking for them. Why not do more and talk less because we all know that action speaks louder than words and at all times we should be seen do what we say instead of saying what we will end up not doing. See you at the top and a happy new week.
