Most times reaching out to others becomes very hard because we get so busy and occupies that we forget the importance of reaching out. For the records, reaching out is another way of showing others how much you love and care for them especially when you can squeeze out time from your busy schedule to remember them. This topic came to me just in the early hours of the morning just as I woke up to put thoughts into how my day was going to be. At first, it hit me like just an ordinary statement but on second thought, it dawned on me that the topic was just speaking directly to me.
I must be sincere with myself if not with anyone else because you may lie to others but you can never lie to yourself. I am the kind of person who hardly reaches out to friends. Sometimes I try to understand why it is so with me and each time I think about it something will take my mind off it and then I will still go back to how I have been.
This morning was different because it felt like the statement was engraved in my heart with a very hot iron. I could not reason or think about anything else other than how to make things right. I must confess that this has made me lose some of my good friends because they got tired of always being the ones to reach out while I do absolutely nothing. As I was thinking about it this morning, a question popped up in my mind. If something happens to you today, do you think you have friends who will go out of their way to come to your rescue? As this question came to my mind, it melted my entire being and this made me think deeply about how I can make things right.
A lot of us are so busy that we end up forgetting our friends which is even more important in life. You may have all the money or wealth but once you don’t have good friends around I bet you, your life will not be a happy one. I have heard some guys talking about how they have forgotten those friends they made while in the tertiary institution and I also know those who have succeeded in maintaining their childhood friends. It is not an easy thing to do but I believe it is more than important for every one of us to do. Now, this takes me to the second phase of this article. How can I reach out to my friends and how often should it be?
These questions are very simple but need to be carefully looked into. For someone who is the busy type, you should try and make out a way to reach out not minding how short or long it could be. In this modern-day where technology has become the reigning thing, reaching out to friends should not be a problem. You can reach out through any social media platform, send an SMS or better still give them a call. This reaching out should be carefully planned so that there will be a simultaneous approach to it which will give your friends a sense of love. I use to believe that I may not have the time to reach out but as I was thinking through all these, I came up with something that I think should be of help to everyone out there who is having a hard time reaching out to friends.
The first thing to consider is to truly accept the fact that you need to do more when it comes to reaching out to friends. The mind as we all know is where everything happens and we must do all it takes to convince ourselves first before this can work. When you have convinced yourself, the next thing you will do is to make a list of your friends. I know you might say that you have them already in your mobile phone contact list. The reason why you should write it out on a jotter is to give you a sense of responsibility and also to have a systematic approach to it.
When you have done that, you will try as much as you can to either make it a weekly thing that you will reach out to five or more friends at the end of every week. By the end of every week, you will thick the names of the friends you have reached out to and by the time you go through the list, you will start up from the beginning again and before the time you will notice that it will become a part of you.
Reaching out to friends and family is something worth doing and no amount of busy schedule should hinder us from doing it because once you leave for the other person alone to be doing, a time will come when they will get tired and move on and this will make them remove you from the list of their friends. Don’t forget that it is better to keep your friends close and your enemies even closer. We all need good friends around us both in good times and in bad times because no man is an island. I urge you to do all it takes to always remember to reach out to friends because your call or text may save a friend from going into depression or even committing suicide. Don’t forget that we are all here for each other.
Nah, I don't reach out to anyone. What I suffered is only keep by myself because I don't want to disturb nor give them confusion and I am still learning how to motivate and keep myself fine, thanks for the article :)