She said yes as I asked her out on a date and that day became the best day of our lives. I could see how happy she was just like a butterfly. I could see the depth of happiness which exudes right from everything she does or says. This was the very beginning of our journey of love and it was coated with icing and every sweetener you can think of.
I could feel her emotions from the other side of the telephone not minding the distance between us and it made the journey even more magical. We were nothing but in love with every fibre in us and it was glaring to all who looked and noticed but it never occurred to me that there was something like an overdose of love that will someday surface in this great tale of love.
From the medical point of view, an overdose is known to be harmful and detrimental to anyone who dares to try it. In most cases, it can lead to death if the person is not rushed to the hospital for quick detoxification and in some others, it can cause severe impediment of the body or even in the organs of the body. We cannot say that medicines are not good because of those who misuse them, but they can become detrimental when misused.
This made it very essential for the crusade against drug abuse in all sectors of the world but can we say that drug abuse has been placed under check? Well, that will be a story for another day because what I am talking about today is nothing other than the overdose of love and not drugs.
I know you will be wondering why I’m talking about the overdose of love today. I want you to wonder no more because what I’m about to say is one of the reasons why so many relationships are in what I describe as a state of imbalance. I presume you have been in one relationship or the other both as a straight or gay person, so you must have witnessed it but probably did not know that that was what was happening to your relationship. Let me ask you a simple question; have you ever felt like you are alone in a relationship or you are giving in too much or more than your partner?
If you are observant enough i.e. if you have not allowed her beauty and sexiness to becloud your sense of judgement in the relationship, you would have seen or sensed this at some point in your relationship. Mind you, this is not an assertion that all relationships go through this phase so don’t get me wrong. There is something about giving in too much than what you are receiving from your end. Have you ever noticed that he has stopped calling you the way he used to? If he would call you, it will only be when it is most convenient for him but before during the early stage of the relationship, he squeezes out time from his tight schedule to call you even when he has a lot of excuses to give.
I hope you are catching the point I am trying to make. Like I said earlier, both gay and straight lovers can also witness this in their relationship because it is a general thing that has been neglected for such a long time. Most times we see this happening in our relationships but we are so afraid to confront it because of fear of losing that person and this is why it is so emotionally and physically excruciating. One cannot give and not receive when it comes to love and relationship because it is not one-way traffic. It is a coming together of two individuals who have found some sort of emotional connection with each other. Mind you, we cannot talk about love without mentioning emotions. It will be like talking about God without the Bible.
A lot of lovers have been left all alone in their respective relationships but they are very much unaware of this fact because the other person does not want the three words (IT IS OVER) to come out of their mouth so that it won’t look as though they are heartless. This will make them give you every form of attitude just to show that they are no longer in the relationship but for you who truly believes in the relationship, you will be doing everything possible even making excuses for them whenever they make mistakes. My question is; how long do you think it will last?
No matter how long a relationship has lasted, never allow yourself to be pushed in that corner where you will be giving your partner an overdose of love and yet you receive none in return. Once you find out that the love and affection you are giving is not being reciprocated, please I beg of you, take a bow and leave while the ovation is still high because if you continue to stay hoping that things will get better, you will be taken unawares one day. I am not saying that you should leave your relationship just because you noticed some sort of coldness from your partner a few times in a week or even a month.
The first thing you must do is to communicate what you are noticing to your partner because he/she might be passing theerough a very difficult time in the office or life therefore, talking it over will be the best thing to do instead of walking out on the relationship. You can only take a bow out of the relationship if you have pointed these things you are feeling i.e. the coldness, too many excuses, and unreciprocated love and your partner still did not give you any reason behind the change or your partner still did not try to make things better. It is at this point that I will advise you to run as fast as your leg can carry you irrespective of how long the relationship has lasted.
One bad thing about this thing is that once your partner gets to find out that you are completely lost in the relationship and you are ever ready to make things work, they will not change rather they will leave the load of the entire relationship on your head which means that you may end up dead if you don’t run while you can.
Try to stop making excuses for him/her because you will end up getting hurt. One good thing about love is that if someone loves you, you will never beg them to show it both emotionally and physically. You can’t tell me that your partner will receive love or romantic message from you and the only thing he/she could say in reply to the message will be; “I saw your message” and that is it.
They will not tell you how it made them feel the moment they saw it or how it lightened up their mood in the office and how they will wish to be getting it more often. It is not just only about romantic messages, even when you call them after waiting to hear from them and all to no avail, they will be using responses that suggest closure or end to discussions or worst still, they will be making use of single-word reply like; ok, yes, fine, good, yeah and so many of them. I bet you know them more than I do. Once you get to that stage in a relationship where you are practically begging for the attention of your partner, my dear friend run because there is nothing left for you.
Remember that we cannot give what we don’t have, so don’t push them into pretending to love you otherwise you will end up becoming what I call a waiting room. You know what a waiting room is, right? They will be hanging on by pretending as much as possible hoping to meet that person he/she feels something more for and you will be faced with that great heartbreak. Please, don’t hesitate to take a bow once you are no longer getting your partners to love in return because a lot of people have committed suicide because of heartbreak.
Always remember that you cannot force anyone to love you the way you want them to love you. It will only take that heart that beats for you to love you even more than you can imagine. Let me end this article with this; “you are a special breed and a wonderful creature, do not settle for less because love can only be called love when there is a good amount of emotional connection between both partners”. Stay safe and stay in love.
