Principles of Association part 2

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Danika

funny, tech enthusiast and a Son of God

2 years ago

In community: Naija Wazobia(9ea9)

Topics: Association, Friendship, Suggested Reading, Personal Opinion

Welcome back friends.

This is the concluding part of the topic. The last time, I stopped at number 4; learn to discern the times and season for a relationship.

Now all relationships can not go on forever. Infact there is an adage in Yoruba language that says 'ogun omo o le were fun ogun odun' Translation; 'twenty children cannot play for twenty years.' This is to say that no matter how close a group of people are, they are bound to go their separate ways. Though this doesn't necessarily mean that they will go their separate ways due to a fight or disagreement but we must understand to discern when a relationship has reached it end. The mistake most people make is that even when they can see the clear picture of a partner, friend or relation trying to distance themselves from such person, they try to force or indulge the person back into fellowshipping with them. The result is one sided commitment to the relationship and the feeling of been used and not appreciated.

Another thing is you can't just leave a relationship because you feel it's too long or too short, rather let purpose, mindset and the spirit of God direct you.

Let me share a verse with you;

Genesis 31:41-42

[41]Thus have I been twenty years in thy house; I served thee fourteen years for thy two daughters, and six years for thy cattle: and thou hast changed my wages ten times.

[42]Except the God of my father, the God of Abraham, and the fear of Isaac, had been with me, surely thou hadst sent me away now empty. God hath seen mine affliction and the labour of my hands, and rebuked thee yesternight.

Jacob had been in the house of Laban for twenty years and had served him with all his heart and might. The truth is he was living comfortably; ate when he is supposed to, wear what he likes and the rest. He even got married and bore most of his children in the house of Laban. We might even say he got some of his riches from Laban though as a wage anyways. Remember, Laban was his uncle, so he should have just stayed there and remain with him all the days of his life. I mean, by human standards, he should have been contented. But, he was a man of purpose and destiny that was able to discern the end of the relationship and time to move of laban's house. It was after he moved out that he was directed to go the land where his descendants would later inhabit. If he had stayed with Laban, his destiny would have been unfulfilled and hindered even though in some ways, he would have made some riches.

Hence, no matter the benefit you are getting from someone, be wise enough to be able to discern the times and season for that relationship.

Move with people of like passion, vision and mindset; As popular as this saying, only few people ever take heed to it and explore it potentials. If you want your association to be a bless to you then, you should move with people that are of likeminds with you. Take for example, if you want to be great in a business, then those that are already into that business or are enthusiasts as you are should be the most people you walk with. Though you will definitely have other friends but those closest to you and those you spend more time with should be those that have same mindset, ambition, vision and belief as you do. Even the Bible says;

Amos 3:3

Can two walk together unless they agree?

You will actually be amazed that there people that don't really like each other and are constantly into frictions and fights with each other because of their perception on different issues and yet are still together mainly because of the benefit they get from each other. The walking together that is said in the above verse isn't really walking side by side each other for enemies walk beside themselves when going to the law court. The walking together here means 'fellowshipping, communing or interacting'.