*Important*: Five Skills of Emotional Intelligence.(EN)

Self-knowledge: It is the ability to look at oneself in order to know one's own internal states, preferences, resources and intuitions. This skill is key since it allows us to become aware of our own emotions in terms of understanding their causes and their effects, thus knowing our personal strengths and weaknesses and being clear about our personal improvement challenges.

When the person gets to know himself well, he is able to make the best decisions.

Self-regulation: It is the capacity for feelings, reliability in terms of maintaining honesty and integrity and the ability to adapt to highly changing situations. This ability allows you to develop creative and innovative capacity regarding ideas and information, control your own emotions and impulses, and implies not only your own but also openness to the ideas of others. People gifted with this aptitude are able to postpone immediate gratification in pursuit of a larger but longer-term goal.

Motivation: They are the emotional tendencies that impel to the action, to the search of the objectives. Motivation tends to be described as a small internal motor that guides towards the satisfaction of our motivational needs that distinguish outstanding performance: the desire to win, that is, people with this aptitude set difficult and challenging goals, are results oriented and learn to improve their performance.

The commitment to personal and organizational objectives and the initiative and optimism that move them to be alert to opportunities, proactively facing obstacles that may arise.

Empathy: Ability to put yourself in another's place, being able to understand the needs, feelings and thoughts of others, focusing attention on the other, postponing personal judgments in order to understand the significance of a given situation for the other's world . "Listening" is an art since it implies being able to detect not only what the other person tells us in the verbal plane of communication but also in the non-verbal plane, thus rescuing the feelings that accompany the speech and then showing them to the other.

Empathetic people do not necessarily have to agree with the other but must be able to see from a different point of view than the personal one, assuming that there are different ways of seeing and evaluating situations, therefore, empathic people value individual differences , contributing with this to the development of the other since they provide help.

There are three skills based on what the other really needs. People endowed with this aptitude give very accurate feedback since they clearly identify the weaknesses of others and in that sense they give good guidelines for personal improvement.

Their advice is timely as it encourages the other to move forward with their development.

Social skills: It implies having the ability to induce desirable responses in others and involves the development of a series of skills such as influence, which is the ability to persuade others, effective communication skills, which is being able to listen and transmit messages. clear and precise and that make sense to others. Another key skill is the ability to resolve conflicts through positive negotiations for both parties, to efficiently manage change processes through inspiring leadership that generates cooperation and collaboration among the members of a group. Finally, there is the ability to generate teamwork and synergy between people, which is demonstrated with excellent results. Now that we have known the aptitudes of intelligence, we can ask a key question: Is emotional intelligence developed?

Yes, since it has a genetic component and environmental learning components, although three fundamental conditions must be met in people who want to generate change:

They must have a strong motivation to change that is fundamentally determined by dissatisfaction at certain levels of social interactions.

Acceptance of feedback from others: the person must be willing to be shown by others the effects of their behavior on others and be willing to correct.

There must be a willingness to change habits: flexibility must be shown in the face of changes in behavior and openness to the practice of new behaviors so that by repetition they are installed as a new habit in our behavioral repertoire.

Certainly there are many things that are not in our control to change but, fortunately, the awareness of the need for personal change, the openness to look at ourselves and allow others to show us how they see us, are the starting point to start any personal improvement work. It requires effort and a lot of perseverance.

Finally, we should ask ourselves about the validity of the title presented, certainly there is no contradiction between the two areas, but rather a complementarity that, if developed in a balanced way, could be good predictors of personal success. So, get to work and good luck!