Low self-esteem makes us believe that no one good enough will notice us or that we will not be able to.
I have a relatively young friend who is currently single. He has lived his forced singleness with tranquility, he could even say it with illusion. But in recent months he has started to feel visibly down and aggressive, caused by a sudden inability to accept and handle loneliness any longer.
When talking with her, phrases that are repeated by other people who are in the same situation stand out: "I think I'm going to stay alone", "I met a few days ago with my friends and most of them are married and even have children" . "," I no longer want to go to family gatherings to ask myself if I have a boyfriend and when am I going to get married "," It is very difficult to find a partner these days ".
There are many reasons why an adult person is left alone and it is difficult to predict if at some point she will find an ideal person with whom she dreams of sharing her life. I think that a large part of the obstacles to overcome are in our minds and are the prejudices or beliefs that we acquire from a very young age and that are also usually reinforced by the comments of our friends and family.
For example, low self-esteem makes us believe that no one good enough will notice us or that we will not be able to maintain a relationship. Another cause could be our independent attitude, generated by living so long alone and having to solve all situations by ourselves, becoming self-sufficient and capable, many times we alienate other people from our side.
It can also happen that, having spent a lot of time alone, we have become accustomed to our freedom and our personal space, making it increasingly difficult to share it with another person who will be different from us in their habits and behaviors. But it is also possible that a difficult sentimental experience from the past turns us into aggressive and distant people, building an emotional shell that we do not see but that others easily recognize.
Another possibility is that our expectations of the prince are so high that we cannot find anyone to make us hear the bells. The latter seems to me to be one of the most common. We all know the theory that says: Having a relationship implies sharing part of our space of freedom and intimacy with the other person, so that we both feel included and taken into account. But are we ready to do it?
As we get used to living alone, we adjust our lifestyle to our needs and wants, making it difficult to give up part of our territory when it comes to sharing it.
This is the perfect time to start a self-observation process. Recognize your attitudes, listen to your words and look in the mirror to know the expression of your body and then ask yourself if you are the ideal person who can attract into your life that special person that you are waiting for. If the answer is no, prepare to be.
Nobody comes into our life by chance, each encounter is causal and if we want to change the pattern of the people we attract we have to make some significant change in our personality and behavior.
Some keys to receiving love:
Value yourself: The first thing you have to do is recognize and value your qualities and the positive characteristics of your personality. Believe that you are a very special person who deserves to share his life with a person who respects, loves and values you enough.
Show yourself as you are and someone special will come into your life to share it.
Forgive: The next step is to practice forgiveness towards that person who in one way or another affected you, making you build an emotional shell to protect yourself from pain and betrayal in a new relationship.
Fill yourself with love and forgive it, so that you can turn the page and heal your heart.
Stop waiting : live your life with enthusiasm and joy. Be yourself, play a sport or a hobby.
It is important that you get out of the confinement you are in. Go ahead and have fun with your friends or co-workers, join a club or an activity where you meet new and different people.
Don't let loneliness drive you into a relationship without true love, making you pay dearly for a little love and companionship. You are a very special person! Let go of the past, stop worrying about the future, live in the present, life is wonderful, everything will be fine!
