Most at times , what we grow up to become solely depends on our parents. They make choices for us, they tell us what they want us to be according to their wish but is it all all the choices that are good for us? Their choices may either be of help to us or rather lead us down the wrong path. So I suggest they go by this way.
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Parenting as the word suggests is the way children are brought up right from the stage of birth till they become independent and even beyond.
It consists of series of guidelines a parent gives out to their children and this includes both the good and the bad ways of raising a child. The good ways are what we are going to talk about and as well use it counter the bad ones . Since the bad ways are not tolerated by people that much since all it does is lead the children towards the lazy part.
Basically what a child grows up to become sometimes depends on his or her parents who should in turn guide them not make decisions for them. Some parents think for their children, they select choices for them and sometimes say I want you to do this course not this because I want you to become this or that which is not a really nice one since it only leads the child to do what he or she has no interest in.
Right after birth the parent is supposed to take care of the child not abandon him or her. Some parents abandon their children and some even throw them away because they don't want them which is a bad practice. Nothing is a mistake , instead of throwing them away rather take them and take good care of them for you don't know what the future holds.
At several stages the child needs to be catered for. The parent has to take the responsibility of taking care of the child and make sure they grow in good shape and health. But it being the responsibility of parents to provide the needs of children does not mean they should pamper the children where they do nothing at home but rather , they should make them work and eat normally not doing it too much.
As the child starts growing, they plan on a brighter future for the child, put them in school, teach them good manners, start teaching them how to run errands and show them how to do some petty jobs but not give them very tedious works that they can't do. Through these they start getting familiar with household duties which will always be a part of them forever.
At school it is the responsibility of the parents to help their children do their assignments, have them to read their books at specific periods, give them possible guidance, cross check their reports ; celebrate them if they do well and encourage them if they don't but do not penalise or punish them because they didn't do well in an examination but rather encourage them put in more efforts, apply different strategies since everyone has a different way of learning and help them become who they want them to be.
As they grow and approach the adolescent stage, help them make the right choices of which some includes;
The school they will like to attend.
The partners they will choose if they want to be in a relationship.
The courses they will offer at school.
Personal hygiene
How to take care of their environment and their bodies and a whole lot.
Don't rebuke them if they bring their partners home( boyfriend or girlfriend) but rather educate them on how to leave a responsible life, show them the possible effects if they don't leave responsibly
Educate them and don't hide "sensitive" topics from them since some will say educating their children about this would rather lead them to become "stubborn" but no it will rather make them safe .
At independent stage or a state where they marry or start working, you will have to help them make some decisions if the come out for help. At sometimes they have to make some tough calls and at such times they will or might come looking for help from you of which it will be your responsibility as a parent to help them solve it. You can also help them raise their children and help them in so many ways even as they are adults.
Therefore it is the responsibility of parents to help guide their children and shape them to become whi the children want to be not what the parents want them to be. They will have to help them in their courses in various art of life but they don't have to decide for them.
I hereby bring my topic to a conclusion here saying parents should help their children make it in life but not dictate for them.
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I must say that my parents did a good job in taking care of me and my siblings, they teach us how to be well mannered in front of everyone and teach us how to be independent at a very young age because they believe that this is what we really need the most. And the result is they don't need to support us anymore financially because we grow as a working student and getting a scholarship helps us a lot. we are not rich so we really need to work hard to be successful in our own life.