It was the conversation that changed the trajectory of my love life.
“Have you heard of the five love languages?” My friend asked me over wine at his place one evening.
“No, I haven’t,” I said through a furrowed brow. “What are the five love languages?”
“There’s a whole book about them that basically explains how we prefer to give and receive love. You should check it out,” he said.
His suggestion couldn’t have come at a better time.
Jaded by dozens of dates that didn’t seem to be building toward anything meaningful, I was looking for some fresh perspective in my love life. It arrived when The Five Love Languages finally landed on my doorstep. Once I cracked it open, I couldn’t put it down. In awe of its simplicity and clarity, I reinterpreted and reevaluated all of my close relationships—personal and professional—meticulously trying to determine how to improve them for the better.
It worked wonders.
I grew closer to my coworkers. I learned how to be a better friend. I became more vocal and active in my family. Above all else, I finally understood what I needed from a romantic partner.
Empowered with this newfound knowledge, a short while after reading the book, I fell in love—not once, but twice!
It was that transformational.
Franz Kafka once said, “A book must be the axe for the frozen sea within us.” If that’s true, then The Five Love Languages was the molten metal that freed my frozen heart inside. Like a rose stripped of its thorns, the beauty had been extracted and cleaned of its bitterness. A part of me that had been locked away was set free.
That’s the power of an illuminating lesson. That’s the power of a well-timed recommendation. That’s the power of a good book.
There’s a reason the phrase “turn the page” resonates with many people. With new knowledge comes a fresh start. The lessons we learn are the start of a new chapter—paperback bricks upon which we can build new beginnings. And so it was with me. But it wasn’t the only time that’s happened. I’ve read a total of nine books that changed my love life, each of them helping me to see with a fresh set of eyes and feel with a freshly thawed heart.
I know they have the power to do the same for you.
I’ve outlined them below.
May you read with an open mind, and in return may they help you feel with an open heart.
The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts
He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk: The Foolproof Way to Follow Your Heart Without Losing Your Mind
Modern Romance
The Science of Happily Ever After: What Really Matters in the Quest for Enduring Love
The Tao of Love
The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man’s World.
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