The girl vs the boy child

Maybe you are a guy, a man or let's just say maybe you are a male, and you have sometimes wondered what it feels like being a girl.

I hear people say "to become a man is not a day's job" while others say "to become a man is not very easy". I also sometimes say "to become a woman is not a day's job".

You see, being a man or being a woman is a function of growth, and growth doesn't come in one day. It takes time, well it depends of how much of a man or how much of a woman you'd like to become.

So let's dive into the female skin. When I say the female skin, I am simply talking about 'what it feels like to be a girl or a female'.

In a world like ours, females are saddled with a lot of responsibilities right from the girlhood stage. At age 3 to age 4 you will find the girl child playing mummy roles with her toys. She cooks unreal food for them, she bathes them, she even clothe them. In Nigeria you will find the girl child carrying her toy in her back, as though it were a living being. She wasn't born with this mindset, but she subconsciously watched and learnt from her parents and yes! Her environment, but first parents, because parents are the first teachers a child gets to have. This play principle could also go for some male children. But what happens when the girl child and the boy child begins to interact with other people, maybe at school, church, the park, the market, places outside their houses with their parents? The girl child begins to be shown some kind of attention because in the mind of her parents, she is a woman hence she will soon be saddled with the responsibilities that comes with being a woman, and when her time comes she becomes a home keeper. Catering for her future spouse and her future child or children as the case maybe.

From an early age, she is being taught and she begins to practice how to become a woman and a mother. When she becomes 13, she is now used to all the drama and responsibilities.

But then this is teenage - hood for her, and it is quite different from where she is coming from, childhood. Although all the responsibilities upon her still the same, but she is new to the reality of puberty. Both male and female sexs comes to this point, so I won't be dwelling much on this part. Let us not forget a typical African style, where since she is now at her puberty stage, she is been taught a new phase of woman hood. She learns. And before you know it, she has entered a new realm of responsibilities. She starts to control and master her emotions, which is usually not very easy like the normal cooking and cleaning she is used to. At age 16-19 she has almost become a master of her emotions, but with all the training she is still the weak one.

She is weak, the Christian holy book calls her a weak vessel. She begins to look upon someone of the male sex, someone around her age but she finds none. Why? Because while she was getting prepared to become a woman, remember she started early (age 3), her supposed crush wasn't preparing to become a man.

It seems normal, but it is not right to prepare the girl child early, and prepare the boy child late, sometimes never prepared.

Even though all the preparations has formed her, it was also a difficult journey for her. But here sh is made and still getting made at age 21.