If you are in love are you a 100% mutual with your partner?

They said loving someone is not easy which is true. Love has a nature to make you a different person which has a two possible effect to you it's either to make you better or worst person.

What is love?

For me love is showing your care to someone, to care their thoughts, to care their well-being, and to trust and respect them. In that they will feel secure because they know that you love them and there's no reason for you to leave them.

Now I will introduce to you the 80/20 Rule in Relationship.

A theory states that in relationship you can only get 80%. What is this 80%? It is the love of your partner in terms of intimacy and needs in your relationship. Now it needs a 20% to complete the 100% percent but the 20% you need to provide it by yourself.

Now how do we apply this 80/20 rule in our relationships?

Spending your time with your partner and nurturing your relationship is part of the 80% and also taking care of yourselves, talking about your plans in the future, you hobbies, the cuddles and the intimacy.

That is the 80% now let us talk about the 20%, the remaining 20% is about the time that you are away with your partner and how to make yourself happy without your partner at that time, so your hobbies will fall in here if you like video games or any activities then you will do it.

But careful problems might arise if love that 20% too much. Why I said this? Let me explain it to you.

Example your 20% is playing video games or let us say that you're a gamer and your partner is not. Then you found a girl/boy that plays that exact game that you like and you automatically think that he/she is the one because he/she likes playing video games too which is clearly not it only fulfill the 20% that you need not the 80% of love that comes from your partner.

Keep in mind the 80/20 rule isn't an excuse to find flaws in your partner because they can't provide you with 100% of your happiness. No one is perfect, so if you're feeling like something is missing, enjoy some independence and know that finding ways to make yourself happy is a good thing. Would you want to risk losing someone who brings you 80% of your happiness, because you're hoping that someone else might be able to give you the 20% you're missing? I'm not good at mathematics either but I don't want this to happen in my relationship.

There's is no equation for perfect love but make sure when you love someone love them unconditionally and look after yourselves too to make your love even stronger.