"Backbiting_An Alarming Social Cancer"

"Remember Your Own Faults Before You Mention Others Fault." Holy Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him)

Backbiting is the moral and social evil that is cause of many social problems in human relationships. Backbiting is prohibited and condemned in Islam. Backbiting is declared more worse than eating human flesh. Back biting actually means to discuss someone secrets and fault with others in his absence with intention to harm him physically or mentally.

There are many reasons of backbiting. Jealous, Envy, and low moral values are important reasons of the backbiting. Backbiting caused many problem in our daily life. The main purpose of the backbiter is to harm that concerned person and defame him by exposing his faults and secrets.

It can be traced back in the childhood when kid say their siblings I will tell to Mama!! Whenever two or more sibling fight with each other. They threat each other of telling their faults and mistake to their parents. It shows that backbiting is appreciated in childhood by the parents. They didn't provide their students such education that they don't hold the secrets of their siblings. Just to be done what they want they expose their secrets.

Few days back when I read an article of brother @Amjad_Ali_Waince where he shared that how his cousin relationship hair's breadth escape from the destroying his happiness urges me to share what happened with me last week.

We are residing separately from my uncle and aunty family. There is custom to live in combined family system in our tribe but my father didn't feel that environment comfortable for us and decided to shift separately in city 22 years ago. We were educated and trained to hold moral ethics and values. My aunt and uncle family didn't engulfed our happiness and they always remains us torturing by different ways but we didn't mind and respect them because our parents teach us to respect elders.

Last week, my cousin Mishii visited our house because she wants my help in her studies. It was pleasure for me to help her. She told me about one our cousin who was very close to our family. My family have kind hand on her from the day her father died. We supported her as much as possible. Even I was collecting money for her dower. But I was shocked to hear from Mishii that how she discussed secrets of my family among others. She added some negative words about us. I was shocked to hear. No doubt, that Mishii was also back baiting but she has good intention that aware us.

My trust have been broken badly by my cousins. I am not sure that will I hold relation with her in future or not. I wasn't expecting such misbehave from her. But I will advise you guys to avoid backbiting. It wastes the good deeds and worship of whole life.

When the people doesn't get what you have and failed to copy they start to spread bad things about you. Once Holy Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) was going with two men. Holy Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) listened them while backbiting and remain silent. On the way they have to pass through the donkey flesh. Holy Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) asked them to eat donkey flesh which they response that it's worse and prohibited act. Holy Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) said that backbiting is more worse than eating this flesh. It waste your worships and good deeds.

Backbiting is a social cancer that destroys your character your good deeds and human relationships. We should gave up this moral and social evil.

Thank You for reading!!!!!