Discovering the true identity of Santa Claus can be a disappointment for some children, who dares to renounce this legend?
In the gray but always cozy hallway of Nathalia's old house, a group of old friends met a couple of weeks ago. As Christmas is approaching, they began to talk about the preparations they would make, and unwittingly the conversation began to take an untraditional turn. Nathalia remembered how exciting it was for her, as a child, to wait for Santa's visit. "I was intrigued by how she managed to get to so many houses on time, without forgetting any of the gifts she had requested. So, full of curiosity, I would stay awake the nights around Christmas to see if I could surprise her.
I was surprised! What would not be my disappointment to discover one day Dad placing the gifts under the Christmas tree!
Since then no Christmas Eve has been the same ... then they began to wonder how disappointing it can be for children to discover that Santa Claus does not exist, and they each told their experiences about it.
I was nine years old, said Lucia, "the truth is that my parents have never been very religious nor were they enthusiastic about any kind of party. So one year they told me to ask the Child Jesus for gifts, and the next to wait for Santa Claus. ”So I was confused and, when I learned the truth, what I felt was a relief for having solved the riddle.
Lorena, the most sentimental of the group, confessed that she started crying when a classmate told her about it. And then he got mad at her, because he felt as if he had killed something very beautiful. "
Exaggeration or justified feeling? Perhaps it all depends on the personality of the child facing the situation. As Nathalia and her guests discovered through this exchange of experiences, what for some was simply part of their childhood evolution, for others it represented the loss of their first and, perhaps, most precious illusion.
The topic covered the entire time of the meeting. And when asked what will be the best for our children, whether to tell them the truth from the beginning, feed the fantasy, or not tell them at all about the subject, Nathalia's suggestion arose to consult a specialist, with the promise of communicating her opinion.
She then contacted a recognized doctor in child psychiatrist and her opinion: "We should not be alarmed by this situation. After all, the loss of an illusion in this case that of Santa Claus, is a situation that all children must face in their lives but who should reveal the truth to our children? According to in most cases, it is not necessary for parents to communicate this to their children.
"They will find out through a friend that Santa Claus is not that enchanted character that they have idealized so much. Then they will go to their parents for support, since their first reaction will be denial. A very natural defense mechanism when lost an illusion. It is the role of us parents to serve as clarifiers of the matter and not as trainers, "he emphasizes.
However, however, the loss of an illusion is still a difficult experience for any individual, no matter how large or small. It is an unexpected reality and, therefore, a bit sad, we must accept that some illusions are gradually lost throughout life. "This is a process that accompanies us to maturity, because even as adults we continue and we will continue to lose illusions.
The child not only idealizes Santa Claus, he also idealizes his parents and later discovers that they fail and have defects. When discovering the realities, of Santa Claus or of any other person important to them, they assume this as the loss of a great illusion, but this is, after all, only the first of many disappointments.
Tomorrow, in the gray but always cozy hall of Nathalia's old house, she and her old friends will meet again. Some melancholic, others worried, all interested in the answers of the specialist, will listen to her comments. Then they will start the preparations again, they will follow the tradition and make Santa Claus for their children. Preparing them perhaps for their first illusion, and their subsequent loss ... After all, this is also part of the Christmas tradition, and who dares to renounce that legend?
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