Negative and positive descriptions of your children. A big difference in our brain and what is more important in our children.
The way we talk about our children ends up transforming into the way we think about them. It can greatly condition our way of relating to and educating them. When we use negative expressions they reach them and also condition their way of seeing themselves and can mark their self-esteem. We must educate him positively.
Many times our greatest strengths can also be our worst defects and this is usually true. Many times the child who is very idealistic can also be the one who growls or gets frustrated when things do not go as he imagined.
Sometimes it is good to reflect something that is necessary to work with some families and that has to do with the change of perspective. This is especially necessary when we have parents who have labeled a child with the negative version. The words we use to think have a great weight in our way of educating and that is why it is important to work on them and make parents see at least the positive version of it.
Negative Version
Weeping
Fearful
Impulsive
Disobedient
Clueless
Positive Version
Observer
Independent
Imaginative
Fighter
Cautious
Your way of educating your children will mark their way of seeing the world, because while they are young you are the world for them and from you they will learn how the world will treat them. It is true that later life will give them some displeasure or other, that they will have to fight, but it is always better to fight from a safe base.
Children sometimes throw tantrums, for them the world is small, their house their father and their mother. Tantrums are not a manifestation that the child is rude or spoiled, they are simply a manifestation that his brain is two years old. They are totally normal.
Many parents feel that they have to be able to stop the tantrums, when in reality it is a totally normal and healthy behavior in the child. The truth is that you as a father or mother cannot put an end to your children's tantrums, and in fact it is better not to do so because they are important in their development. The temper tantrums they have in their 2s or 3s help them figure out how to cope with great frustrations in their 20s or 30s.
Shouting and punishment can make your sons and daughters pay attention to you for a moment, but they do not produce lasting changes in the behavior of children; that's why parents who yell and punish have the feeling that they have to repeat things over and over again. Positive strategies offer guidelines for educating without so much yelling and punishment. Once you learn these strategies, you will be able to educate your children with firmness and affection, helping them internalize a few rules appropriate to their age with calm, tenderness and understanding.
If we treat them with respect, if we correct them with affection and help to do things with patience, the child will grow up feeling that the world is a safe place where love abounds.
