Than & Now

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1 year ago

Hello friends and readers. I feel rested today because I was able to get a good night sleep. The next few days will be busy for me but l'm energized to take them on.

For today's article I look at how things were and how things are now. Keep in mind I'm older and somethings may not be the same in your country.

You don't have to memorize or write down phone numbers no more

For me when I lived and worked in 1990's I either memorized or wrote down numbers. I memorized things such as my mother's work phone, family members, and close friends. Part of the memorizing came from repetitively dialing the entire number of who you were calling. I use to carry a pocket sized address book which contained important phone numbers. If I needed to call a store or make an appointment some where I used a phone book.

At work I had a rolodex πŸ“‡ of numbers. It contained business contacts and other offices. We also used phone books.

Today many of those things are obsolete. Our phones hold contacts for us or all we have to do is search on the internet. At work now there is an electronic directory where you can find numbers. I would bet that many now don't have the numbers they call memorized. That's not as bad as not knowing your own number though, lol. When's the last time you hit all the numbers to call someone you know?

Smoking has vanished from public places indoors

I can certainly remember walking into a restaurant and be asked smoking or non-smoking. I always chose non-smoking. The bar scene was different anybody could smoke everywhere. I really don't miss those days coming home from bars and all my clothes smelling like cigarettes.

Today where I live you can't smoke indoors in any public place. The only place is in your own dwelling or car. I actually agree with the law which was enacted in my state in 2008. Many businesses were years ahead of this law. Second hand smoke can be deadly over time. Is smoking allowed in public places in your country?

Video Arcades are all but gone

Growing up there were video arcades machines everywhere. Go to a mall or even a big restaurants and there would be a huge area for them. They were even in some gas stations. I can remember going to one arcade building that was 3 stories tall and it contained 100's arcade machines.

I still see some video arcades machines today but nothing like when I was growing up. It reminds me of how the pay phones slowly went away. The only place you will see lots video machines is in casinos. Not the same thing though as those are for gambling and definitely not for kids. Gaming today is huge still, its just not much affiliated with the commercial arcade machines no more.

The way children are disciplined has changed

I was a child for the longest in the 80's. When we got in trouble we would normally get spanked and sometimes whipped by a belt on the butt. There was also the wooden spoon or paddle and what ever else might be in reach. I know of a lot of kids that got punished this way, it was common. There was also the use of being grounded which is to be condemned by staying at home or getting something taken away. I was very aware of the consequences of doing wrong or not obeying my parents.

Today here in the United States a parent would probably find themselves in trouble if they whipped thier kids with any type of objects. It could be defined as child abuse now. Disciplining today is mostly verbal now. The grounding is still very common here. I do kind of get how it has changed. I'm sure it was due to some parents going overboard on physically discipling thier children. How is disciplining children in your country perceived?

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After Thoughts

I stumbled on these topics awhile ago reminiscing about things talking with a co-worker. Its easy to look back and see how things change. Sometimes you don't have to look that far back. Than and now is more or less living with change. When it comes to certain things change is required. I hope you enjoyed this topic today.

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1 year ago

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A lot of changes happened. For some, it happens in just a short period of time..

I just remembered myself back then when I don't know how to use a phone. I really thought that I need to write down all phone numbers in a paper sheet and keep it or bring it wherever I might go, just in case of emergency dials. Hihi.

As for smoking, here in our place, this kind of law is still not realize. When it comes to arcade machines, I saw few in big malls but only few were there too.

And finally on the last one you've mentioned Sir Bob, I didn't experience any of these. But despite of that, I still managed to learn a lot of good things with the guidance of my parents. Even without the physical kind of discipline, I get scared when my mama gets her voice louder and eyes gets bigger.. Lol.XD. Hahaha

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1 year ago

Good summary thanks for reading. Only some places have enacted smoking laws. Its a good law I think, why should those who don't smoke suffer? Yes soon arcade machine will be of none. Verbal discipline if used properly and consistent is effective. The problem today is parents let there children off the hook to much and are not consistent with it.

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1 year ago

A lot of things change a lot especially now in new generation sir bob. Sometimes I remembered those old days too. Smoking is not good for our health sir bob.

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1 year ago

Yes smoking is a bad habit that can affect those that don't even do it. Thanks for stopping by.

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1 year ago

time is flying like a butterfly there are changes in life i am glad to read that in united states there is no smoking in public i hope this thing will also improve in our country plus punishment way is still old in my country like old days in US and i think its good

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1 year ago

I'm not sure if the smoking thing is completely enforced in all the US. It's a state enforced law. A lot of States have it not sure all States do.

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On the latter thing, I do think we've lost something from the good old days of more severe consequences. As we know from history, there are times when diplomacy is a workable solution to a problem, and we also know when war is the ONLY solution.

Sometimes parents need to have the ability to offer a stricter discipline with memorable consequences to more firmly plant change in behavior. A good spanking never harmed me mentally, although there is certainly a difference between discipline and child abuse. I think our courts and other officials are and SHOULD be smart enough to know the difference.

A lot of the problems we have these days with so many things I think stem from a major shift in parenting, from coddling to "everyone wins a prize," and sheltering our kids from life's disappointments.

We may get it back at some point. But I do sometimes feel like we may not be able to at this point, and what we have created are scared people unable to function in society, who need special attention and drugs to cope, as well as support animals.

I think it is a bit shameful and depressing, really, because we cannot be a strong nation without strong people in it.

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1 year ago

Well said I am in total agreement. Even though I got disciplined the way I did I never thought of it as abuse rather it was my fault and had to pay the consequences. I don't think I would have been as good without a spanking. It was just so common a lot of my friends received the same thing.

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1 year ago

Put succinctly, I think the world has simply gone mad and we have to now run around the crazies...

And THEY are making the rules! lol

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1 year ago

It appears that way sometimes. Even the small towns aren't safe from it. We had an active shooter here yesterday in a Target

The living scared or watching over our shoulders because of crazies is for the birds. We have to live our lives the way we want to!!

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Today where I live you can't smoke indoors in any public place. The only place is in your own dwelling or car.

The same here

How is disciplining children in your country perceived?

I cannot speak for my country, I can only speak for myself. I tried to discipline my children with words, but not with shouting. I set clear boundaries for the children. They knew that if they crossed the line, they would not get what they wanted. One of the most important things is to be consistent. If I said they wouldn't get a certain thing if they didn't behave properly, they didn't get it if they didn't behave properly no matter how long they apologised afterwards.

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1 year ago

Yes being consistent is key. A parent needs to start early with this too. A lot of parents fail at this giving into there demands, like you mentioned with apologies or begging. I find you can shut that off as well to by saying the time can be extended.

Words are better for all but I don't disagree with some physical discipline as long as it is not causing injury, it just enforces our verbal disciplining. Of course as they get older they learn this better if used properly as a parent. I'll say it wasn't often I used it and if I did it was a few hand spanking. Nothing hard just enforcement hey your doing wrong. I haven't used it on my son since he was 8 y/o. With this all being said my kid (16 y/o) has turned out not to disrespectful brat that some kids his age are.

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1 year ago

In my view, the use of physical discipline on children is a sign of powerlessness and failure on the part of the parents. Violence is always an act of desperation.

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I can tell you I would have probably not been as good if I only received verbal discipline. It was just something that was rarely used by parents when I was a kid. I would have thought I was getting off the hook compared to others.

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1 year ago

Hi friend good evening

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1 year ago

Hello thanks for stopping by :)

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Your welcome kind friend

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Yes, things have changed a lot. Nothing can be taken for granted now. Life has become fast and unsafe despite high-tech security measures.

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1 year ago

I can agree with your statement. An example is a simple checklist for something that isn't followed but gets pencil whipped.

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1 year ago

A lot had change. Here in our place, I saw lots of people smoking everywhere that's why sometimes even if face mask isn't required when we go out, I still wear one because I hate the smokes from the cigarettes. It feels like I can't breathe properly when I smell smokes from it.

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1 year ago

Yes it is a habit that others have to suffer with. I too wear mask often when I deliver and I encounter a lot of smoke and it's not just cigarette smoke either. The smell is awful and often can smell it before the door is even open.

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1 year ago

As of the moment I am still writing contact numbers in papers and notes. With regards to discipline, it has really changed but with our kids, we are still using punishment to our kids as way of discipline.

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1 year ago

I get punishment as a form of discipline. A little smack on the booty does have an affect as long as your not leaving bruises or welts. One can't do in the eyes of the public because overlookers will frown. I think when kids get older that form of punishment is used less because they learned from it and will listen. Here it's only abuse if you leave marks and bruises.

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1 year ago

Team millennials here! We're the age group where we are able to witness how the world changed in general. From being so traditional to digital.

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1 year ago

Technology has changed so many things so quickly.

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1 year ago

I have a similar topic to write that I save in my drafts a few months ago. But after Rusty was gone I didn't have the chance to finish it.

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1 year ago

Look forward to reading when it leaves your drafts:)

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1 year ago

It is about the new and old generation.. I I had that idea when I notice the difference between the two generation at my workplace. Most of the new gen is inconsiderate

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1 year ago

I'm a 90's born also. And I can say the total differ nowadays with regards of disciplining. And with that, it's hard for the parents nowadays to handle their child. After all, there is that so called child protection the reason some children are spoilt and hard headed moreover no respect anymore. A sad reality though πŸ˜”

I also do such thing of writing contacts on my notebook especially the important things. ☺️

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1 year ago

Ya it seems there are a lot more hard headed and spoiled kids these days.

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1 year ago

Sometimes it's always lingers in my mind when it all started. So sad having this kind of reality. Do we still have hopes for the future having the kids nowadays? I mean, if I'll start with my child, how about other parents? I still hopes that parents will able to make the way of our children to better through disciplining

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1 year ago

Yup a lot of things are changed, some of them are positive and some are negative. People still smoke here in public places like inside the bus and train and become the reason of other's irritation. I can't tolerate the smoke they produce and I try to leave the place asap.

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1 year ago

Ya second hand smoke is no good. I hate the smell of smokers. I use to think why do I have to smell like smoke if I don't smoke. I'm glad here in my state they have rules for smokers

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1 year ago

Indeed it's so true about child disciplining, I was born 90's, I can exclaimed that there is a big different in disciplining then and now because I experienced being beaten by a broom sticks, knelt down on salt even the tansan cap. But todays generation, being beaten by parents where called child abuse that is why, nowadays children/youth become disrespectful.

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1 year ago

That is true, words sometimes are not enough. I think we need to start right away too. The only thing asides from words we have at our disposal is taking things away.

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1 year ago

Truth! It's not bad to discipline a child or young people today... It's just sad to think that you tell them good manners and teach them a lesson and they just let it out the other way. And by disciplining them, you have become bad in the eyes of other people.

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1 year ago

So true about the child disciplining ,I am a 90's kid also and I can say that a huge changes compare to the new generation .

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1 year ago

I know the physical method served me well. Today it seems the verbal method doesn't always work for all parents. I think it is hardier and you have to be consistent with it.

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