Everyday has its own stories and experiences, nowadays it seems different things happen in different ways. Some people allow things that have happened before happen again because they did things the same way.
Recently, guys proposing publicly to their girlfriends started trending on social media, some did it to show their love while some did it to show off for the fun of it. Several videos have surfaced online of guys proposing. Somehow, for unknown reasons, videos that ladies turn down proposals trend more and remains in social media for longer time
Another one happened recently. A guy proposed to his girlfriend in the market place; the girl did not only turn down his marriage proposal, she also told him why.
"Your thing is too small" she shouted, everyone around, friends, well wishers and passers by wondered why she had to say such a thing in public. The man of course, felt embarrassed but I think he deserved it. Yes!
Public proposal is not a must, its not a criterion for marriage. Hundreds, thousands and millions of people propose, get engaged and married on daily basis all over the world but people don't get to watch them on social media. I wonder why some people act like their proposal won't be valid if they don't do it publicly and post on social media
Its bad enough for a lady to turn down er man's proposal, telling the man that "his thing" is too small is even worse and can lead the man to stigma and depression, the man's ego has been deflated publicly, something he could have easily avoided
I understand that a lot of people that propose publicly want to surprise their women, they also want to feel special when the lady says "yes" in the presence of every other man, I can imagine how healthy that could be for the man's ego and confidence, it show that the lady is for him and him alone, its like rejecting every other man and choosing one man publicly
On the other hand, the embarrassment, consequences and pains that come from rejection outweigh the glories and joy of acceptance. Think about it.
You don't want to assume that your woman loves you as much as you love her, some ladies pretend to love you out of pity or because of material things they get from you. Some ladies can also love you as a friend but they night not want to spend the rest of their lives with you. So its dangerous to assume that your woman must say yes when you propose marriage to her
To be on a safer side, try knowing her mind before proposing, forget about the "surprise" thing. These things keep happening, a lot of guys have been embarrassed and heart broken because they proposed publicly without knowing the mind of the lady, they ended up being rejected in the mist embarrassing and humiliating manner.
Learn from other people's experiences so same things don't keep repeating, save yourself the unnecessary public show of
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