Management by Resolution

The best time to chart the course Tof our and family is at the start of the New Year. Family management by resolution is one option that home managers must pursue to ensure safe and satisfied sailing the whole year through.

What is family management by resolution? It is a cooperative venture of both parents and children to make a resolve under Heaven never to do anything they would be afraid to do if it were the last year of their lives. Resolution is not just goal setting. It is an honest orientation of the family's understanding of their roles and functions.

New Year is not just a time for celebration and merry-making. It is also teaching family members how to face and cope with the challenges of homelife the next 365 days. I suggest that family council be done stressing five areas of family management:

CARE. It is the initial ingredient of handling people. Feelings are important. Words and actions should be governed by the fact that oftentimes we hurt most those who are close to us.

RESPECT. It is the ladder of reaching intimacy. In the family, the right of privacy is mandatory. This means that parents and children should uphold one another's hold to peace and silence, for it is in silence that we hear the divine.

AFFECTION. It is a tangible expression of love. Loving our family members is not just a principle but an inherent mandate of our being. Love covers all fears and faults.

FORGIVENESS. It is giving another chance after a relationship is breached. It is lowering our pride and accepting our vulnerability and finitude. It is opening the door of acceptance when others abandon their relationship.

TRUST. It is entrusting our lives and our future to our fellow children of dust. It is temper proof commitment in interacting with people who are preys of lies. Transparency is the evidence that we have confidence in our family members.