Once again I saw them: happy middle aged couple wearing matching outfits, holding each other's hands and laughing like newly weds.
I just don't get it, how adversity could turn to be "a blessing in disguise", if I could borrow that annoying popular cliché for just a moment.
Just about two months ago they had been estranged from each other, separated for about three years. It was something he did I gathered; cheating on her with fragrant disregard, and abusing her emotionally. That's another thing I don't quite get; how lovers suddenly become total strangers; how people that had so much love for each other that they were able to stay together for some 18 years, sharing every moment of their lives; how they suddenly develop so much resentment for each other that they separate for close to 3yrs! More than 1000 days.
And yet here is an example of such people. Even though they now seem to have rediscovered the love they shared abinitio, acting all lovey dovey like some teenage couple who just fell in love for the first time. There must be something about staying with someone for a long time that makes you lose sight of the reasons you loved them . And there must be something in separation that makes you rediscover that, and give you enough time to mourn it what you're missing every waking moment of the day. So that when you get that second chance, you make it work with the last drop of your blood. Yeah, a second chance; I'm sure the world is littered with many douche bags whom separation have given enough time to realize what they are missing, and they are now praying for an opportunity to pop up, so they can make a play at getting a second chance.
For this dude it came in the most unexpected form. The estranged wife, a known hypertensive, had suffered a hypertensive crisis and lost consciousness. By some stroke of luck he was in the vicinity and was the one who rushed her to the hospital. For 3 days he didn't leave her side; he was always there praying, caring, worrying, doing everything necessary to help her pull through. And when she finally opened her eyes, he was still there, and continued being there for the rest of her stay in the hospital. I don't know what happened "under covers," but all I know is that they both went home together upon her discharge. And from then onward, he was always the one bringing her to the hospital for her check ups, in matching outfits Lol!
Yes I know he loved and married her. Yes I know along the line he became a douche bag and she left. Yes I know that the role he played in her getting back to her feet helped in getting them back together. But no, I don't think all of it happened that fast. I think he had earlier realised what he was missing in her, how stupid he was for leaving her to chase those other ladies. I think he had already realized that long ago, but the ego was in the way. I think seeing her lying there unconscious, and the greater fear of him losing her forever, was what helped him ditch his ego, or it could be that he saw the knight-in-shining-armour stunt as a convenient way of making his move without hurting his ego.
Whichever is the case, it's still about conquering the ego; it's the last enemy that must be conquered for reconciliation and reunion to take place.
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First posted here: https://steemit.com/relationship/@chidiebere/ego-the-last-enemy-that-must-be-conquered-for-reconciliation-to-take-place
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