My relationships toward my inlaws Here I am again ,writing this topic about my so many "ya ngo-ngo sa kinbuhi".I am so sorry if here I am again having this topic ,maybe some of you here already know that only here I can express my feelings ,I can't tell it to my husband or someone here and other thing I was trying to control is not posting my problem on facebook .So,here I am now ,wanted to express how do i feel right now. Yesterday,I and my mother in law having a short discussion about the electricity,the roadside area here are already having back the elecrticity and dahil medyo malayo kami sa kalsada is ,meaning mahuhuli kaming magkaroon ng kuryente.Our discusion goes like this,my mother in law wanted us to complain at the main office and I told her,we will just have to wait until the line men were going to repair the electric wirings in our area,they will have to repair first the road side for them to easily repair the other areas which is far from the road.And seems like she never understand ,until she said that "kung ganun naman lang ,ay dapat wala nalang kuryente kung hindi man lang lahat magkaroon agad.So ,I explained again but she never listen and she told that we were giving tip to the line men so that they will repair first in our area ,since I get iritated na,I told her to do what ever she wanted ,if she wanted to complain at the office ,then go I always saw some post about the electricity ,according to the leyeco ,we will have to wait coz they are working day and night just to give back the electricity ,they are doing their job.Then after that convo ,she never talked to me ,and everytime I watched her,she had a mad face always .I don't want to care it ,in the first place alam ko na yan ,lagi na siyang ganyan sakin but then ,as I respected her I'm the who talked her first.I don't want that someone getting upset coz we are leaving in the same roof. Even before,not only this things we are arguing.I still remember this things which we get upset each other. **Job Issues** After a year of giving birth of my eldest son ,I always heard her words "we need to find way that there's a cents that will get in our pocket"thats what I always heard and as a job less,I felt guilty about it ,so I asked my husband ,what if I find a job ,but my husband never letting me to work ,he wanted me to take care of our baby and when my husband's boss needs a cashier on his meat shop ,and he wanted to get me but my husband refuse that offer,but I felt sayang kasi nga para walang masabi yung mother in law ko .I was planning to sell anything here but I am worried baka kasi magaya ako sa isa niyang daughter in law na nagtinda din ng tuba or coconut wine and she keeps complaining that her daughter in law was competting her.When my sister in law,sending us balik bayan box and a lot of clothes which no one will wear it from the family ,I told my sister in law that I am going to sell it para kahit papano mababawi yung shipping fee ng mga boxes and my sister in law was happy and agreed on my plan ,she said that the half amount I earned from those preloved clothes will be mine and the other half will be given to my mother in law.She was happy everytime someone was buying the items I was selling but she was not agreed on how I sell it ,I posted it in facebook and delivered it after ,she was not agreed coz she wanted that the buyer will come to the house ,at that time I felt like I did'nt did something good ,It was like she was finding a mistake ,nah!but thats what I felt .After all the items was sold ,I was trying also selling frozen product and she was the one who offered me ,I did'nt sell it immediatly coz I was thinking ,maybe only at the beginning she will be nice to me ,I am going to put my items at their fridge.If they were going to buy it ,I 'll never add interest on each item ,only to our neighbor who buy .After several weeks ,I decided to stop selling coz I felt bad of what she doing .She turned off the fridge even if I theres still stocks on it ,I guess it 2packs of hot dog and 1pack of ham .What I did was I get my stocks and cooked the ham and good thing our neighbor came to buy hotdog. When I started here at read cash ,she always saw me having my phone in my hand ,and when my baby was crying ,she would said that pinabayaan ko daw ang bata.And I told her why do sometimes I keep holding my phone and a she was happy knowing that I was finding ways to earn. **Raising my kids issues** Always,we argue on how do I raised my kids ,she don't like on how I raised my own kids ,she always compared her self to me ,.What ever the things I said "no" to my kids was a "yes" for her ,thats why my kids were running her if I was trying to disipline them. **My husband's past relationship issues** One time ,with our nieghbor ,they are talking about my husband's live in partner before and she had the loudest voice ,our nieghbor trying to control her voice and asked if I don't get mad if I can hear them and she answeref "ofcourse not ,she already know about this girl before they are living together".In my opinion ,I did'nt get hurt whatever their topic about that girl ,what I don't wanted to hear is that how many times they keep talking that girl ,its not only about me who get upset to hear that ,also my husband ,he never wanted to hear that but she was trying to inserted that name everytime she can find way to keep comparing .I can't understand what is her point on keep talking about that girl ,when I was new here,they aways said tge bad side of the girl but now parang bumaliktad and hangin . But then ,whatever she did,I was trying to adjust and give my respect to her. I think ,its enough na ,I just making myself having stress,I need to end this blog coz I already heard my tummy ,shouting asking for food haha! Thats all for today ,thank you for your time ,stay safe and God bless🙏
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Haha ka joker ninyo dha sis. Akong ugangan masuko pud kung dugay mo uli iyang anak tong mama sa bata Nga Gamay Kay makabantay sya, makuhaan iyang time cgeg tan.aw ug YouTube. Mangatawa dayun me sakong bana sa kwarto Kung mag yaw2 na cya, looy lang Ang bata ui anghel pa kaayo damayon Nya dugay daw mo uli Ang mama.
Haha ,kuyawan sad no ,bitaw ing ana jud siguro mg mga idaran ma sis no?😅
Gani, ga tiniguwang na hahaha
Ganyan talaga sis nuh. Minsan magkakaproblema talaga sa mga mother-in-laws. Mostly ganyan ang mga issues sis. Even my mom sis hindi sila magkasundo ng grandma ko sa side ng father ko. Hindi rin kasi kami lumaki dun sis kaya ibang yung trato niya sa ibang apo compare sa amin.
Yes mao gyud sis,mao bitaw mao jud nay ge remind sa akong nanay nga maningkamot og lain bahalag pinobre kay lisud mangipon.
Mao gayud sis. Mao sad ingon mama lisod daw mangipon.
Are you living in your inlaws house ? Because if it yes , it' really hard to set your own rules. You can't have two queens in one castle right? Why not talk to your husband po na magseparate na kayo?
Yes ,we are living with them now ,even before when we are living seperately to them ,its the same ,there was nothing change,hanggamg bumalik kami uli afyer sa bagyo kasi nasira bahay namin .
Aw,it's really hard to deal.with in laws sometimes
That's kinda toxic family in ties, I don't know why people are acting like they are perfect is they see people below them, they feel like they can easily mock the people around them. Your mother in law is really the reason why your stressed everyday, it's better to live in separate places so that there will be no more stress from relatives in ties. Still I'm glad that your earning on this platform, I believe that theycwont bother you anymore since you've already earning an income.❤
Thats what I noticed ,when she learned I was finding way ,she smiled at me and saying ,that its good to know that I am my own money.
Awitt hahaha naa d i ingana diha tita?? Murag nakita na nahu duhh! Lisud jud makig uban ug balay sa inlaws tita nuh? That's why gusto jud ko maglahi. Bisan pa muingon ok ra sa inlaws na makipuyo mo, ang pangutana hangtud kanus a? Naaahhh, lisud jud na ingana kay nila pa tita, there should be only one queen of the house. Mao na much better jud maglahi. Ako di jud ko ganahan makigplastikan tita, mao ahu sad ipakita ahu batasan. Naahh tatay sa ahung pares, kahibaw siya ug unsa ko lage kay kapuy urui ng maayo ra kung naay kwarta.
Okay ra dae kung layu og balay kay kung dool ra ,mao ra gihapon oy ,mao bitaw gusto ko mo stay og dugay sa amo kay di ko stress 😅Mao jud dae no ,duh bahala ng ilang trono oy ,ila rana hehe ,bitaw wapa mo ma okay sa papa ni jef?
Sila papa gusto adto bitaw mi sa amo. Kaso mauwaw si jef ja naa siya trabaho. Managad iya papa tita. Buutan na tahay agw hahaha kaso di man lage ko mutuo na tita uie. Kahibaw na kos ila color. 😅
Mao pud dae no ,adjust nalang ka kay aron di ta ingnon way batasan ,mao raba jud na kasagaran maestorya sa uban ,maong adjust nalang jud.
Kalmahan mo nalang te, baka may ibang iniisip mother in law mo pero may point ka naman, yun lang kasi iba nakasanayan niya s anakasayan niyo ngayon at iba oagkakaunawa nya at pagkakaintindi kaya gnayan
***Kana ang isa sa rason dae Mao di na jud ko muipon ug ugangan. Pastilan naman lang jud, di gyud masabot Usahay. Bisan unsaon na'to ug paubos kay lagi mas tiguwang sila kaysa ato pero naa jud time na sobra na sila. Feel nila na pag mother in law, dapat sundon pero di baya sa tanang panahon ingon Ana ato buhaton.***
Tumpak dae ,lisod pud kayu motubag kay naa baya jud time nga feel nato sobra na ,katubagon na ta niya ingon na noon tag walay batasan kung mo mutobag ,aguy nalang jud.
***Aw Kana Lage dae, hays kapait nalang jud. Mao karon palayo ko sa ugangan oi, magkasakit lang ko sa heart Ana, hahaha***
Bitaw dae ,maka stress😅
Haaaay mga in-laws nga naman. Mahirap dn magwork tapos iiwan mo sa taga alaga ang bb. Minsan mas di ka pa mapapanatag. Anyways, good job sa pagalaga kay bb. Hihi.
One of the reasons why I do not like to live or live near to my in-laws when I have a partner already is because we might not have the same thoughts in life and then leads to arguements. As possible as I can, I will have a good relationship with people.
naya juy hing ana nga mga in laws ate sa. Murag ang uban siguro hing ana tungod kay dili sila ganahan sa partner sa ilang anak. Maong mas nindot gyud mag puyo layo sa mga in laws para peaceful haha