Now, when getting into a relationship is achieved. Here comes the big question.
Is he or she right for me?
This is a very important and critical question all the same. As many partners make our abilities to answer this very vital question difficult because some of them are pretence advocates. And very good with words, that they turn you all around while you fall to their deceitful and empty promises.
But the good thing is, no matter the level of pretence one has.,. There are still ways to know or have a hint if he/she is the right one for you.
In this article, I will be revealing 20 ways to find out and tackle that question.
He/ she supports you: A guy of pretence, no matter how he tries, would at one point be against your dreams. If you are very observant, you would notice quite early enough. This is because he doesn't see you as a partner, but a rival. He is just out to look for himself alone and not you.
He/she cares
Someone that loves you, often show they do. He would care a lot about you.
He/she is a good listener.
Ladies., Check out your partner on the days you are down, health-wise, emotionally and others.
Does he pay attention to you?
Does he/she create out time just to be with you?
If yes. There is every chance he is right.
He/she believes in your ability and is concerned about your future.
Instead of killing your dreams, goals and visions., They help you nurse them to reality.
The bar test.
I term it the bar test because it is the easiest way of finding out if someone is really into you.
To my amazing sponsors, you are the best motivation i got, i love you dearly Check out the days you go out on a date. Is he/she secured seating by you, or they are scared and keep turning faces left and right, just to see who and who is in the restaurant or bar with you. Probably they don't want some certain people to see you both. If a guy or lady does this to you. Be rest assured that there's something amiss.
Are you free to talk to him/her?
Are you satisfied telling them your deepest secrets? Can you gist and laugh for hours without running out of words to say to each other. Do you feel less burdened when you open up to your partner? If yes, he/she is good to go.
Do you trust him/her to tell your dreams and visions? Are you comfortable sharing your goals with him/her without the fear of putoff, discouragements or even jealousy
You both respect each other's boundaries.
You have the same or complimentary stand on certain beliefs, Christianity and lots more.
you have great or mild misunderstandings and still settle with love and respect in play. Like it was never even serious at all.
When he/she is quick to say sorry, say thank you, help, listen and be there for you.
12 when you begin to see them in your future. Building a life with them.
13 when he/she misses and looks forward to spending time with you again.
14 When you feel at ease, and happy after receiving a chat or call from them, even when I'm the worst of states.
15) When they make you their number 1 priority and fight for your happiness.
16)when he/she has a great understanding level. When you both are compatible.
17) When he/she resolves to tell you happenings in their lives. The moment they bring you into the equation of their life. They really care and love you. And this wants you to be part of it.
18) They don't just say "I love you" they go a long way in proving it. When they live GOD.
19) When they are proud of you and makes a boast of you amongst their friends. When they help and celebrate your little SUCESS.
20) When they reprimand you, tell you when you are right with love and help you improve and keep developing yourself, notwithstanding your past. Believe me, that person loves you and is right for you.
There are so many ways of knowing if one is right for the other, till forever.
But I just listed the above 20, so we could pick out something's, that are tangible and capable of helping out our everyday relationships.
I hope this helps your relationship positively.
Wish you all a positive and healthy relationship.
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20 Nov.2021, A Candidly Publishment
Its hard to say if someone is really the right person, because often times the more you think she/he is, well actually not.
Anyway, you me a good standard too.