Things you do when you are sad

Everyday life is a series of ups and downs. The ups are the best, and the downs are your worst times. Those times are times of sadness. Sadness is that feeling of unhappiness that makes you want to give up and forget that you can be above again. Sadness is a part of your life, and it is your constant companion.

My life is happy, but I can never say I never have been sad. Truly I say to you that sadness will never go away. It will always be on your back, waiting for the right time to haunt you. Sometimes, it comes at an unexpected moment. It takes you by surprise. You may be laughing with your friends at the moment, but your mood can turn upside down. You will never know when. That’s what makes it harder and harsher – how it ends your happiness unexpectedly and instantly.

No matter how much people can gain in their life, they will always feel that life is dull. Unexpected events in life like death, farewells, failures, disappointments, and dissatisfaction make us feel like life is not worth living. Even the little things can even make us down – like when our friends do not respond to our chats instantly, when our loved ones forget our birthdays and when our plans to go out are cancelled. Each one of us feel sadness in different ways. Some can get sad at things you do not get sad of. But that does not make them weak, so we should not ever criticize them for it. We can also feel sadness from things people do not get sad of, and that is not stupid. Feeling sadness is only human, whatever the reason behind it. Even the prettiest things for us are the most painful for others. Sadness is not the same for everyone, and we must always be considerate of others. Then, when we are the ones who are sad, they won’t scrutinize us for our reasons.

However, the bad thing is feeling that sadness and letting it take over you. Sadness should not be the reason for you to give up. It is difficult, but we must not let it win. Sadness is always there, but it will pass. Happy times come and that sadness that you currently feel will fade. Like how happy times end, sad times will also end without you knowing it. It’s painful to know that happiness ends, but it also means that times of sadness will end too. So, what do we do when we are sad?

In times of sadness, we should not ever let it get the whole of us. Sadness is like coffee. It is bitter, and you might not even want it in your body. But adding sugar and milk can make it have a nice taste. Likewise, adding correct mindset and willingness to learn can make sadness be an essential to our life. We should try to think how we can learn from the sadness we are feeling. We should learn to think that sadness makes us look weak, but the truth is it actually makes us strong.

I have read somewhere once that in life, you do not have to wait for the storm to pass, you need to learn to dance in the rain. It made me see things in another light. Rather than agonizing over our moments of sadness, we should see how can we make the most out of it. We cannot enjoy sadness. We cannot dance in it but we can go along with it. In times of sadness, we can’t just sit in the corner and let it consume us. It may be impossible to enjoy it, but we can make it a little bearable. We can treat it as a life challenge that makes life more thrilling. It can be a time for us to do things we cannot do when we are happy. We can enjoy sad songs, we can sympathize with stories of grief, and we can understand more of those sorrowful poems. We can know more about the shadows of life.

In our dark, unsettling times, we may feel lost and alone. We get overwhelmed with the intense feeling of sadness that we cannot hope that there can still be light. But that’s not true. It may be overly positive, but everything will be alright after time. The night may be long, but we know for sure that morning would still come. Light will shine again. We should still hope that the sadness will pass even when the situation feels hopeless. Hoping for the better is something that can make us stronger, not softer or weaker. It gives us the courage to face what we feel because we believe that we can overcome it. What makes us even more stronger are our friends and family. It is never a sign of weakness to rely on other people. It is actually a sign of bravery to be able to admit our moments of helplessness. It is bravery to know what we feel, face it and share it with our trusted ones. Sharing with our loved ones eases our burden and makes them feel needed. It actually strengthens your bond. We should not be afraid of what we feel.

What do we do when we are sad? We should not deny it. We should not run away from it. We should face it, accept it then we can learn, discover and make ourselves better. It is in our lowest points that we can see improve more.