Not Another Promise

Making a promise has never been the issue, we can make a million promises, in fact we like to make promises cause there are a lot of things we want to do, but the problem lies elsewhere, that's in fulfilling the promise, and often it's not because we forget, rather its cause our hands are tied, it's not because we no longer want to meet up our promise but its cause there is little or nothing we can do as at the time. There are a millions of ways by which we make promises all from our futuristic view of things, our expectations, but the fulfillment of that said promise is not in our hands even though we feel it is, well do your best, and hope the rest isn't strong enough to stop it.

As emotional beings its normal we feel sad when we make promises but genuinely can't keep, its even sadder when you're the person promised but it's been delaying or totally disappointed, it's really hard to understand or let go, however, its paramount we owe no grudges, its paramount we understand how things can be at times, its paramount we are understanding to the circumstances of things, its paramount we judge fairly, but I guess firstly we'll need to verify if the reasoning is true and genuine, not some false tale to hide from the proposed promise.

I really respect a natured mind, one who is quick to adjust and wouldn't add more tension than the one already existing. Do we know that the person unable to fulfill a dear promise made is most likely short of resources to attend to his or her personal needs, I guess we often don't think this way until the person fully opens up about is personal lives. We're quick to say he's stingy, she doesn't give out to friends, some even grows to it, but looking deep you'll realize its the disappointment making an enemy out of them. Disappointment can lead to anger and also hate if not understood.

A matured minds who's a promise is only but a favour and because no one knows the future we most likely is under probability, no matter how sincere and assured the person sounds, for the fact that it's a future reference means it's under a probability and stands a 50:50 ratio, this helps in reduces the strength of dependence and possible disappointment, more reason why its easier for some people to wave while others can't let go. A matured mind won't make matters worse as she knows the friend who promised might be going through so hard times for himself, so rather she renders words of encouragement not entitlement.

All I can say is all powers belong to the lord, he alone knows tomorrow and can talk with certainty, no wonder people have learnt to had a phrase to the end of their promises, you'll most likely hear words as "I'll do this for you by Gods grace" "if God permits", "God Willinng" and so on. This way you can't owe them accountable because they've made it crystal from the onset that I can actually do little, but the main determinant is in the higher power above, so should incase I don't meet the end of my bargain, just know it's all God willing and chill.

However its bad when its within your powers to fulfill a promise but you don't, someone might question and say but its my money and I can choose to do with it as I so please, yes that's right, but not when a promise is involved. Probably need to understand the power of expectation. Its sometimes better to intend on helping someone but keep it secret until when you finally render the help so you dont make someone expect but then disappoint. I understand that some people promise to make the current situation maybe a fight or an urgency calmer, but its doesn't remove the fact that an expectation has been created.

People build hope on expectations, there are people happy and can breathe properly now all because there is some they are expecting, it's more like an hope for them, it could be their son who is graduating from school, it could be a financial assistance, it may be faith in your competence, maybe a doctor, a repairer, it could be a work support, only now someone's mind and heart has so engulfed it, you're gradually becoming the only hope left, it'll be dangerous when you disappoint also. So if you can fulfill your promise, ensure you do, someone may be really counting on it.

It would be better for everyone if we can learn to expect less from humans, humans are so limited, even when it's in our hearts to do but what can we do when there are many factors that can affect our decisions. Don't be fooled when anyone says "there is nothing you can't do when you put your heart to it, so he didn't fulfill that promise because he didn't take it seriously", its often false, that's why its good to hear the reason. The government can easily affect our decision, illness, bosses, cash inflow, even the advent of a more pressing need, what then can you do. So expect less from human and shift focus to God who can never fail. And when a promise isn't fulfilled, try to listen to the reason.

I'm glad you took out time to read. I love you.