In Order Of Importance

Been learning to do things in order of their importance, well not just things but people too, and yes it has helped me feel good, whenever I go home and reflect on the days activities, I no longer beat myself up because I know I did things in order of their Importance. If two people come to ask for same favour, I know I have to do for that person who earns it more before the other, forgoing selfish motive, or sexual preference, it has to be based on importance, and you know what they say "family comes first ". Then clearly some friends do more than some other friends, also some situations are more demanding than some others.

It doesn't take long to realize that people would try you how they feel about you. If someone keeps ignoring your calls or busying your text then be rest assured that they don't hold you in high regards, there is no way to make it sound better. We all also know how we respond to people we don't want to be disturbed by. Often times we clear acts of favouritism right before our eyes, so much that we get angry at them, well we can keep getting angry or learn the bitter truth there is to learn from it and move on, moreover you owe your life to no one and likewise no one owes his life to you too.

I once heard of a story of a man who went to his friends house to solicit for help, when he got there he met a lady, dressed so seductively seated there waiting for his friend also, they don't know each other so they only exchange greetings and took back to how they were before, soon as the friend came in, the lady stood to greet him as he was sat laughing while they played a bit, then the two guys greeted each other, of course as guys. After much chats and laughing the two guys told to lady to wait as they wanted to speak more privately.

Such a heartfelt speech, he almost broke into tears explaining his ordeal to his friend, well the friend too showed all signs of remorse, and yes he gave and showed all proves to depict that he was seriously in need, however the friend promised to see what he can do, as he couldn't do anything urgently, but this is an urgent need I need to cover, yet he said he can't do anything urgently, and so he said ok. So they went back inside to keep talking. They got laughing, though this time he couldn't laugh more as his hope was been disappointed, he really hoped his friend could help out.

Now what can he do, he remembered so one else, another friend and thought to call him as the need was urgent. Well this other friend too was not going to help, he doesn't have to give to, now more depressed than ever, he leaned on a wall and fortunately can overhear the conversation between his friends and his supposed friend, he took interest, just for fun at least he could overhear a thing or two to insult him later with, apparently he heard more than a thing or two. The girl was speaking so strictly and annoying, then asked for a sum of money just for keep, she didn't even get a lie to make him find a good reason to give her, she said don't I need money, would you stop playing with and give me the damn money.

He still wasn't so angry when the friend brought out his phone to do a cash transfer to her, it was when the friend ask her how much is it again and he realized she was going to get more than double the money he begged for that he became so destabilized, he walked in and just said I'll like to be going, the friend still didn't pay close attention to him, he was more interested in ensuring the girl was happy and would be staying, apparently the girl was going to make him happy, he took this hate for his friend for a long time until he realized it's a human nature to want to care for what pleases them first before another.

Even the few that goes all out to please another first before themselves only ends up getting hurt, life they would say isn't fair, well the best you can do too is to do things in order of Importance. People would mostly do what pleases them, no one really care, believe it or not, no one would care for you If you aren't special to them, same goes for you too, soon we all learn to take care of ourselves. However there are few special people whom you would love as you love yourself, those you're in love with, family, and close friends.

Its unquestionable when it comes to your kids welfare, you going to try your very best unless such parent is highly irresponsible. Giving or doing things has always been in the order of Importance from time past till now, people picking to do one over another for its beneficial reason, helping one more than another with the hope that someday it will pay off, especially when you don't expect anything from the other. So when we get disappointed or someone gets a preferential treatment over us, we just see it as that annoying human nature, filled with selfish motives not even based on Importance anymore but pure selfishness. We can do better, at least let's do things in order of Importance.

Thanks for reading. Stay loved, stay happy.