Every Lie Needs Trust

The main ingredient to a successful lie is trust, the people you least expect have a higher tendency to lie to you, not necessarily the people you're closest to, but the people you trust the most. Some people we are very close to and we know they can't be trusted, this people can't successfully lie to us cause we would take their words lightly, however some others have played their cards so well, this few have earned your trust and they can easily fool you, believe me they can. Every lie wouldn't be successful without an element of trust. And this also is what makes it painful, having so much trust in someone only to discover they had you fooled. I'm not talking about a joke now, I'm talking about real hurt.

It's a whole level of hurt from that person who mean a lot to you, your mind constantly goes there, the brain just keeps bringing up the hurt from time to time especially when less busy, this is the lies I'm talking about today, the lies that hurts, the one that can spoil. Of course it can. Like the title says, when a lie is introduced what happens, it destroys, it spoils, it completely shatters, it's funny how we are quick to lie, thinking it'll save the situation better, however we end up knowing that the truth still comes out, and know a lot has been destroyed. Let's shun lies, especially because it affects trust, and trust is what we need for an happily ever after.

Where there is lies, what do you expect as the outcome. When you can no more believe what comes out from the mouth anymore, what then is there to stay for. Relationship is always and has always been an involvement between two people mainly, and to this there has to be some sort of connection, you feel, I feel, we both feel. The sync however needs to be developed each and every time. The best way of building this sync or we say connection is by encouraging trust and no secrets, let it all out on the table, this is what it is, this is all there is to say and it has got to be the truth.

In situations where we have found out that the words previously said out were lies, would you believe the next? Overtime you've been made to believe this or believe that, only to discover someday that it all is a lie, let's not talk about the hurt or the pain that accompanies it, what I want to really know, is would there be something to hold on to, would the pillar of trust still be holding us together, or just as a collapse building, its already over just awaiting an official date. And for the few who didn't end it after the revelation of the lies, how then were you made to continue cause I know for certain that trust is the pillar, but lies is the bulldozer to cut it down.

Without a doubt there a couples existing who have been through the highs and the lows, there are people who are still accommodated till date by their partners even after they have messed up real bad. In other side of the world there are broken homes and broken marriages because of mistrust, so I begin to ask myself what then is the line, what is that thing we must look out for and say oh yes this is the reason for this and this is the reason for the repair, well maybe a reader can comment below and make me see why some homes still stand even after the lies and unfaithfulness and others don't.

People are different however, what can make one end it, another would easily bear. I've always thought cheating was the line, that once you're caught then it's all over, but I've seen others forgive and likely forget, but yes the relationship continues and I ask again what is the missing piece, what is that thing to that strike the difference, why some continues and others don't, I still want to know, is it love, I guess so, but all are in love, maybe it's a deeper level of love. Or maybe it's the different tolerance level, or maybe is the kind of lies involved, maybe the lie was bearable.

A concious effort to changing is key also, when lies has been detected and the hurt has taken over, now there's regrets and the willingness to change. In all let's ensure we really want to change, its easier to apologize but harder to stop yourself from repeating it again, especially when you haven't dealt with it as you should. When lies has been seen the way out would be to introduce the truth, its only the truth that can repair, let's see to repair rightly. Lies scatter, lies destroys and we can't possible repair with lies, we repair with the opposite of lies, introduce the truth to help with the repair process.

If we make a decision to shun lies, let's try to see to it. Indeed some times the truth appears so dangerous, like it would create more mayhem and discomfort, while the lie would save the day, however we have seen it always isn't so, rather the truth may hurt, but it always wins, you'll be glad you spoke the truth. Commitment, trust, love all cry out for the truth, they can only survive where the truth is in place, we need the truth, our partners too need the truth from us, the truth keeps us going up the ladder, but when lies gets introduced it's a ride down. So stay up with the truth guys.

Thank you all for reading. Stay strong and remain truthful. The truth shall set us free.