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The question is;
"Are you feeling guilty about something or not?"
No matter the situation, guilt can be a terrible burden to bear. If not dealt with, it can gnaw at you, and drag you down. You might even avoid others in an attempt to hide your guilt, or act irrationally because of how you feel.
But guilt can also be a very useful emotion. At its most constructive, according to research, it reminds you that you can do better in the future. Experiencing it also shows that you have moral and ethical standards, and empathy.
Sometimes, though, we feel guilt unreasonably, for things that just aren't our fault. This can be damaging if left unchecked. This article takes you through the different kinds of guilt, and explains how to deal with them.
Why Do I Feel Guilty?
Guilt is the emotion we feel if we let ourselves  or others down by failing to meetings a particular standard. This standard may be widely acknowledged (missing a deadline and delaying a project, say). It can also be self-imposed: a personal perception that you haven't lived up to your values .
Broadly speaking, there are two kinds of guilt: "healthy" and "unhealthy." Whenever you experience guilt, it's important to recognize which kind you're dealing with. Then you can take appropriate steps to tackle it.
If you're feeling guilty, it’s important to identify whether it's "healthy" or "unhealthy."
Recognizing Healthy Guilt
Healthy guilt is proportionate or rational. It's the negative feeling you get when you know that you behaved inappropriately.
You'll experience healthy guilt when you hurt someone or cause a problem that you could have avoided. The guilt is telling you to make amends and to change your behavior.
Experiencing Unhealthy Guilt
Unhealthy guilt is disproportionate, misplaced and irrational. This is where you feel guilty about something, but you're not really to blame, or have no actual control over the situation.
Imagine a friend suffers a serious career setback at the same time as you get a promotion. Despite the joy you feel for your own success, you feel bad for them, and guilty about your own happiness. This guilt isn't rational or healthy, because you can't control the circumstances which have brought it about. It helps no one – and you've done nothing wrong!
An extreme case is "survivor guilt." For example, with the sudden loss of jobs due to COVID-19, some people still working may be feeling survivor guilt.
There's rarely an obvious remedy for unhealthy guilt, because there's little that you can do to improve the situation. The key is to work on your mindset instead.
How to Handle Healthy Guilt
Feeling guilty for doing something bad may be unpleasant. However, when it does occur, you can use it as a springboard to improve your relationships and to inspire personal growth.
Try these tips for managing healthy guilty.
1. Acknowledge and Apologize
If what you feel guilty for affects another person, say sorry straight away, and make your apology unconditional. Don't try to justify your actions or shift blame to other people, even if they were involved. Just acknowledge the anger, frustration or pain that you've caused.
Simply getting the issue out into the open like this can do a lot to rectify the situation. You may even find that the person is already "over it." But, if the person you've hurt doesn't immediately accept your apology, you have at least acknowledged and taken responsibility for your actions.
2. Make Amends Quickly
Find a way to  put the situation right , and do it as soon as possible. Delaying this step and allowing even healthy feelings of guilt to build up, can lead to anxiety for you, and doesn't do anything to end the pain for the other person.
Make your actions useful to the person you're making amends to. For example, if you forgot to do something important which left a colleague with extra work, offer to tell their manager that you were to blame. Then help out with the work. This will be more valuable than offering to take them out to lunch.
3. Change Your Behavior
The behavior that makes you feel guilty may be a one-off action, such as saying something insensitive. Or it might be something you do frequently, like poor record-keeping, which causes your colleagues recurring problems.
It's important to take the initiative and address the problem behavior. This could involve anything from improving your time-management or delegation skills, to building a better work-life balance and  tackling bad habits .
Making positive changes will improve your interactions with others and help prevent repeated feelings of guilt. Try approaching your manager for help with behaviors you'd like to address, as they may be able to offer training or advice.
4. Accept and Move On
If you've done everything that you possibly can to make amends, and to prevent the same situation happening again, let the guilt go. The sooner you put your guilt behind you, the sooner you can focus on more productive activity.  Mindfulness can be useful in accepting your feelings and beginning the process of self-forgiveness.
You can also use your experiences to develop  Emotional Intelligence . This can help you to understand and regulate your own emotions, so that you can manage your guilt appropriately.
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Using guilt for self-reflection and growth really is the best way to learn and move forward. Nobody is perfect, but knowing these skills to always try and be the best version of yourself is so important.