Sharing financial details and Finances as spouses good or bad?

In my personal opinion i want everyone to be financially independent even like working women or house wives they shouldn't be dependent on anyone for money .

As you know life can give you unpredictable situations like if your other half dies ,what if they divorce you or cheat . Most of the domestic violence cases are not reported because the women endure it just because they have no where to go to no way to earn . They endure to be in that abusive situation so its really important especially for a woman to be financially independent .

Should women share finance and share their personal money ? I believe if you are living in the house men should help around in chores and women should definitely help around in paying bills or any service they can do its between the couple to decide who pays what and who does what chore .

How ever sharing financial details is a big No-No for me . I have seen women saving money daily and making a joint account in banks with their husbands only to find out one of them actually used them all on a personal thing . Which is bad but sometimes that can happen.

So one of my friends husband and her had a joint account and they both used to save money in it for the future of their kids and she was now planning on having kids .

As she was pregnant and had a few complications in her pregnancy she saved for the worst times too the job she had didn't approve her maternal leave and so she left the job . She was very much at ease knowing that she has savings and nothing is to worry about .

Now the husbands family had his sisters wedding and they emotionally black mailed the guy to give the sister a car in A dowry gift (dowry is illegal and highly frowned upon but people still get greedy and want it) so he agreed and bought a car without discussing it with his wife and he didn't want to make her worry he thought that he will put the savings back before she knows when he gets his salary . Now the thing was the wife had an early labour nd her situation got really bad the guy asked his company to give him the salary in advance and they didn't approve it the savings was way less than the medical fees and now when her husband went to his parents they refused to give him any money at all .

The situation was saved because his wife did have gold jewelry and he sold some of it . Gladly the life of my friend and her baby was saved but she had a c-section and was just heart broken when she was told the truth about the whole savings being used and how her jewelry was sold . She regretted trusting her husband on finances .

Its not bad to keep savings together but definitely if you're saving for a cause .It s better to have n own account and your own money . Better safe then sorry.

Thank you for your precious time and support ❤️

Blindly trusting people is bad even if it is an spouse everyone has a priority and some people like her husband leave todays work on tomorrow .