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Begin to treat your younger sibling as an equal We all have friends who we call our bestie and believe that they are closer to us than a our own sibling especially a younger sibling who might be much younger than you. It's quite common for a younger sibling to be headstrong or rebellious toward you. You might always try your best to correct his or her every mistakes but to no avail. Sometimes, it might seem that the more you correct them, the more they become annoying. Soon enough, you'd come through a conclusion that no one disrespects you as much as your own blood does, then you might begin to hate them for that. ..or so you thought.. You'd never realized how much you love and care for him/her until you see them helpless, in a very serious predicament. You'd wish you could just take all the agony away from him at that moment all at once. You'd do anything to make him or her smile or laugh again.And when they finally smile at you, the feeling in your heart couldn't be commpared with any other feeling in the world. Often times, when you scold them about a particular misbehavior, instead of them apologizing after you have pointed out their fault, your Lil bro might turn arrogant and walk away. Sometimes they'd respond to you in a harsh or unpleasant tone and you find it hard to resist the temptation of hitting them.

And even when mom or dad interferes in the dispute, it would look as if they are taking sides with their younger child and this might make you more bitter. You'd start to think that mom loves you less, but honestly that's not the case. It means that mom has more faith in you since you are the eldest, she also expects you to be more patient and accommodating to the younger one just like how she have always been patient with you for a along time, even before the younger one came to the world. In most cases, hitting or cursing a sibling would only make matters worse in both the short run and in the future You'd be constantly fanning the embers of hate and resentment in their hearts whenever use degrading words on them them especially when they know that mummy and daddy hardly hits you or calls you names when you make a mess of something. You'd only be seen as tyrant to the younger one. Who knows, he/she might be plotting to have a revenge somewhere in the future and very soon you'd regret ever behaving like an oppressor towards your Lil bro or sis. There would definitely come a time that you dare not lay your hands on them again or use those heavy words Don't forget, they could grow up faster than you and also become more physically sturdy. So, what ever insultive or heavy word you use on them can also be thrown back at you and there would be absolutely nothing you could do about the insolence. You wouldn't think of hitting them either as they will definitely fight back. You'd have no choice than to choke on your anger and frustration. I have seen alot of grown up men who are never in good terms with their brothers, even women too. The reasons for this coldness is not often far-fetched. There was already a faulty foundation in their childhood. The best approach is to always show love it and affection right from the younger days. Even if they had done something wrong, speak with them gently and make them realize their mistake too. Even if they continue to repeat the same mistake always, continue to be patient with them over and over again. Always console yourself with the knowledge that you are not only older than them, but also smarter, wiser and more experienced in life .

You could even ignore or simply keep quiet about the whole affair and pretended as if nothing ever happened. Soon they'd be the one to come to you and say "sorry" when the guilt of what they had done constantly nudge on their conscience. Believe me, when they come of age and wiser, you'd be surprised that the do anything that they would do anything just to make you happy and always try their best to impress you. And that was because back in the days, you were always patient with them when you had every reason to be angry at them. You had coped with their arrogance and tried your best to bring out the best in them when they had expected you to curse or hit them . When I was much younger, there was a day that I lost the phone of a much older cousin. The phone was actually a new phone. She was really hurt about this but she never showed her anger or yelled at me. She just went into her room and locked herself up . This came as a big surprise to me because I was expecting a really good beating from her. From that day henceforth, my love and affection for her tripled and I don't think I would ever hesitate whenever she wanted my help, no matter how difficult her request might be for me. Sometimes, we subconsciously or deliberately relegate our younger siblings to the "Lil bro or lil sis" status even though they have become adults capable of fine thinking like any other persons. We are quite reluctant to accept the fact that a younger sibling can become more intelligent or wiser than us. Later in life, you'd realize that a much younger sibling could give you the brightest ideas of what to do to salvage a sinking marriage, relationship, business or career. The advice given to us by a younger brother or sister could prove more effective and practical than that given by a parent. Don't forget that the both of you have similar life experiences compared to the old folks. It'd be much easier to relay your feelings to a younger sibling who is also an adult than to a parent. That annoying little girl or boy of yesteryears could be the most perfect sister or brother that have ever lived. Lol. ******************************* Thank you for staying with me ♥️♥️

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