@Bilqees 3 March 2022

No need to explain your self over again I remember when I was younger, anytime I come to the realization that I had done something wrong, or I had failed to do something important that I was instructed to do by either parents, I'd immediately start to think about how I would start explaining the situation prior to when my mistakes would be discovered. Before dad returns, I would start a practicing session on how I would explain the situation and how it all happened. Most times, I'd have to include some lies and half-truths in order to be able to convince him that the mistakes were unintentional just to lessen his anger. Infact, i would go further by making a mental scene of a discussion between me and dad. I'd think about all his likely questions and reactions and how to reply and counter them all. But as soon as I am in his presence, I'd lose my nerve and begin to shiver when dad looks me in the eye with a cold stare. At that moment, I'd forget all what I had planned to say and I might even burst into tears. Lol. A common scenario can happen in a relationship when a partner is trying to apologise for a previous disappointment . It could also happen to an employee trying to explain his mistakes to a boss. But when you keep beating around the bush, the other person might get irritated and scream at you to come to the point already. Then you definitely would have to let it all out without holding anything back and await the response or reaction of the other person. It might be that after you had left their presence, you'd realize that there are some things you shouldn't have said and you start to regret. Most of us had one time or the other found ourselves in similar situations. Sometimes, it's not always entirely your fault it happened that way. It could be that you were pushed to the wall or the conditions at the time was just beyond your control. It might also be that the other person might be at fault too but you wouldn't realize it at that moment. Explaining yourself or the situation that has already happened over and over again could easily lead you into saying things you shouldn't say at that particular moment . In trying to make the other person see reasons with you, talking too much at once can cause one to say things that might be difficult for the other person to believe or worse, implicate yourself further. Out of sheer desperation to convince the other person, one might inadvertently make a bogus remark or a tall promise you wouldn't be able to fulfill and this would definitely lead you into a similar or greater dilemma in the future. This might definitely affect your reputation in the eyes of the other person. Whatever you say or whatever promises you make later would only be taken with a pinch of salt as you have now become predictable. And when one becomes predictable, he loses his respect. In worse cases, the other person might not say a word, and just allow you to keep talking your throat dry. And at the end, all your words would have fallen on deaf ears and you'd be surprised that the person you have been trying so hard to convince would still go ahead to take whatever decision he or she had initially planned to. No need to mention that one might feel stupid afterwards. So, too much blabbing could make the other person begin to think that you are trying to confuse them with words or play on their intelligence. This might make them change their mind about you as you definitely look more guilty in their eyes with such an impression. Even though your previous actions were condemnable, so long as you are now remorseful, it's important to leave things the way they are. Appealing too much to the mercy of people could sometimes make them to look down on you with disdain and this could dent one's self-esteem. By the way, no one can ever lay a claim to perfection Sometimes, all your blabbles would be needless and unnecessary. The other person might only need a simple but sincere apology and an assurance that there wouldn't be a repeat of such an incidence. Believe me, this wouldn't take more than a few words and things would be alright. ***"When you are trying to convince people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear and the less in control. Powerful people impress by saying little"...... Robert Greene*** ****************************** Thank you for staying with me. Special thanks to @Aimure for the sponsorship renewal. I really appreciate the support and good will 🙏