When your own mother start to ask you about your age Good day beautiful friends. Trust you all had a wonderful and fulfilled day. ... Well some of you might already have an inking to what the above title means, especially if you are living in the tropical region of the world. Lol. When a parent, especially a mother asks her son this question: " my son, how old are you?". It means that she is not only anxious, but also angry at her son due to his inability to bring a daughter-inlaw home, especially when the grown up son is doing quite well financially. Mama begins to wonder what else would be stopping him from taking a wife. This question "how old are you" ( which figuratively means, when are you going to get married) is not always asked to a daughter, since its somebody else's son that would come to ask for our hand in marriage. So, The best a mother can do for her grown up but unmarried daughter is to pray that a good and responsible man locates her. But as a male child, you are expected to go bring a wife home as soon as you have got a decent job and can settle your bills comfortably. Marriage is still a very sacred and respected institution in the native culture. It is always a great pride and fulfillment to a mother the day her son or daughter finally gets wedded. As a matter of fact, a mother's guests usually constitute about fifty percent of the entire wedding population. Sometimes,you wouldn't know who the happiest person is between the bride, the bride's mom and the groom's mom. Getting married is such a big achievement to them all.
Earlier today, I remembered an old African movie I watched years ago. The young man arrived home to his widowed mother after being away at the city for three years. It was during Christmas and he bought a lot of presents for his beloved mother. But to his shock, his mother blatantly refused to accept the gifts. The old woman told him to his face that she cared less about his money nd material possessions. All she wanted was to see a grandchild before her time's up. Frankly speaking, she told her son to leave her house and return to where ever he was coming from and bring back "the perfect gift", a wife. She called the other gifts and the son's car "useless". Her son's childhood friend who also came back from the city tried to calm the disgruntled old lady, but she yelled at him too as he was also a bachelor. She kept screaming at the two gentlemen. " How old are you victor, how old are you James? You both are in your middle thirties . Both of you are already doing well in your chosen business and career but yet to refuse to settle down". "All my mates and sisters had already seen up to three of their grandkids but I don't even have one". The old lady lamented in a shaky voice. "Is it when I have departed the earth that my grandkids will begin to com"? She began to sob at this point and I felt really sorry for her even though I initially found the scene funny. The two gentlemen continued to plead with mummy to take it easy but she ignored them, stood up from the ground, walked briskly to the house and slammed the door shut. It was quite clear that she had been in emotional pains for a long time and always felt empty in her soul as she watch her peers doting on their numerous grandkids. She just couldn't take it anymore. This movie really reflected what goes on in my society. personally, I have observed that quite a number of young men who are already well-to-do still will not consider marriage at the moment. I find this quite weird. When a man is poor or broke, he would blame his financial condition for his inability to get a wife. But when things get much better for him and his financial status raised,he may still be reluctant to get married.......... ..... ****************************** Thank you so much for staying with me. My day had been very busy and I had to quickly rack my brain for a topic before today is over. Pls do pardon me if yii find the article quite short and uninteresting.
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Dear Bilqees, you have raised a very interesting topic, and it is strange that this is happening all over the world today, it seems that men are running away from marriage all over the world these days, and the reason isn't clear, while until a few years ago men had to get married before the age of 25...
exactly friend, times are really changing and individual perceptions nd differences are getting more sophisticated with the times.. Its sad that almost half of the population don't see anything special about marriage anymore
It's normal and I totally agree with that particular practice. Do you know that I used to think too, what of those ladies that are well to do(especially female celebrities) that still find it hard to settle... Most times, they're yet to find the Godsent AND SOMETIMES THEY ARE NOT JUST READY TO SKIP FL|RTING
I know a few of those ladies very well... I mean the ones that really worked for their money through education and business and never slept around. Alot of men feel intimidated by such women and assume she would lord over them after marriage which is not always true.... As for the other category, I don't have anything to say about them.
Harsh reality for nowadays.
Marriage and commitment still scare me up to this day. I might end up with someone with a different belief. So I have to be 100% sure who I will marry.
Just keep praying for God's grace. Its not at bad as you might imagine. It coukd be the best thing that has ever happened to you. ☺
Getting a wife isn't the problem, but getting a compatible partner, marriage isn't easy, that's why many don't want to marry, or aren't prepared for it
its easy o if you believe it will be easy and work towards it from an early stage... Son are marrying up to four in my region amd they are all doing well.
Remind me what region is that again😊
Arewa region ☺
😊😊, I can relate now, can you speak the language very well cause I'm learning it currently
If u input on my hijab and open my mouth, you would think I am one of them ☺
😂😂, are you yoruba
No... Same side as kushyzee and aimure
OK, I'm kinda lost, let's just say, something like Hausa or fulani
Edo
Really, my mom is Edo, and my dad Yoruba, my mom is from the Imegba side
Auchi somebody
Lol, its not auchi o, but they aren't too far from each other
Truth is that finding a wife is not easy. And men are not so eager cos we feel we have all the time in the world to make enough money and search for the perfect person. Parents can be pushy sometimes
especially mothers.. They ain't orient at all with their grown up sons. Before you know, they will start matchmaking you with their friend's daughter 😂
Lmao. You know these things
They are looking for a real meaning of a wife, so my vote is for the boys haha
Lol. That means you would prefer to have more sons than daughters?
It is very interesting to learn about this part of your country's culture. I wish you success with that hahaha.
Thank you ma'am . I appreciate 😂
My mom shouldn't even try this with me, I go change am for her 😂 she should focus on my sisters and pester them to get married, marriage isn't something I will like to rush into
Don't be surprised, your mom have already targeted and matchmade you with one of her good friends daughter who is also studying at the university. She might let you know all about it when yoh are done with school... Believe me, moms are really very serious and concerned about their fiirst sons getting married than any other pikins. 😂
Na there she go miss road 😂 my mom knows better than to try that, she doesn't meddle with most aspects of my life coz she knows I will end up disgracing her 🤣
Dey there ,e go shock you. Especially when she involve her pastor to pasuade. By the time pastor confuse you with visions about good mothers knowing what is best for their sons future, yu wee cam down 😂
I go disgrace pastor join, na that time you go hear say pastor become atheist 😂
Sometimes finding for a best career is easier than finding a good partner in life. I can't blame anyone 😅