Tips to fix marriage problems

Marriage is a communion that is created to last a life time. This is over and above all type of relationship except perhaps the relationship with our parents. I am not sure whether they are made in heaven or not but what I know is that a better part of our life goes into it. It covers every facets of our life and passes through every possible emotion. Marriage is an imposition of our society and staying with marriage is looked down upon. When two different people meet on a common ground then there is no escape from having differences. These differences are mostly resolved amicably by both but sometimes it can take an ugly turn leading to deeper differences. It then has a deep impact on both the people’s life. While in previous times cases of differences were less or at least less reported, now we very commonly hear about such cases among our known circle.

Now let us see what can be done to resolve such issues.

Identify the matter behind it

It is the very first step from where it starts. It can be small things like a habit of other which you don’t like, or things which the other said. In the beginning the other person may take it lightly and may not raise the issue. But with time it can create a stale feeling. Repeating such things slowly creates deeper rift in the mind and it keeps on increasing. So it is necessary to pinpoint the cause and only after that its effect can be dealt with.

Voice your issues

Once the problem has been diagnosed, now is the time to tell the other about it rather than keeping it in mind and silently suffering. Let the other know what is creating this feeling. It can only be possible when you communicate it to the other. Communication is the backbone here. While raising the issue it is important not to make it look like an accusation or something criminal. But the point should be clearly conveyed.

Listen to the other also

Once you have conveyed your point, now is the time to listen to the other. I am sure he or she will have a reason for it. Here it is required that you are not adamant and try to understand what the other person is saying. Something’s are by nature done differently by the man and the woman, those things are not wrong in their own place but a way of expression that is inherent in that gender. Here you cannot expect that the other can do much about it. When the other has conveyed their reply then try to put yourself in their shoe and think. At this stage most of the problem can be solved.

Let the other know that you want to mend it

The other should know that this is a process to mend things and not to break things. Both taking rigid stance due to ego will not help. One has to take small steps to come closer. This step becomes very difficult when things are quite serious among them due to serious nature of issues like trust issues. It is better to make best efforts to mend things. But one has to take the first step and only then they can again reach a common ground.

Admit you were wrong

This is also very difficult. To admit a mistake you have done. There is no other way to put it but the straight way, no beating around the bush and justifying it. In most cases things will take a positive turn from here.

Know when enough is enough

Sometimes all efforts may fail and there will be no point pulling the relationship. In that case it will be better to amicable part ways amid all the bitterness. It is a big emotional strain but sometimes a line has to be drawn. It becomes all the more difficult and clumsy when children are involved.

Marriage is too big a thing to be thrown away for trivia reasons, the benefit of staying together far outweighs staying separately. So the effort to keep the marriage together should be genuine. Now a day where both the party are financially independent it is very easy to break a marriage. Now young people are less ready to accept and compromise on issues. This is a very bad thing but is quite prevalent in society.