Now a day’s teen age years are high pressure years. The magnetic pull of social media, the openness in society, the desire to be popular is so ingrained in the mind of teenagers that they are not able to decide what is right and what is wrong for them. And the overflow of hormones is not helping at all. It is the age of attraction towards the other gender and the hormones and the new society norms are propelling them towards this direction.
Now not having a boyfriend in teenage is looked down upon. Her friends will flaunt their boyfriends and what they do together. They will make you feel insecure and unwanted if you do not have a boyfriend. In those tender years, girls usually succumb to this pressure just to show off that they are in high demand. We cannot change the way society norms are changing but what we can do is protect ourselves from its bad norms.
I will talk about 4 things which girls should be very cautious in teenage years particularly between 13 and 16 years of age.
Getting into a relationship
The first love is always a special one and is remembered lifelong. It gives the feeling which is unmatched by anything else. In the tender years girls fall in love but they mistake between love and infatuation. In those years it is only infatuation, getting attracted if the boy is handsome or stylish or famous in school. But that is not true love because the target of this infatuation keeps changing. If another boy joins the school with same qualities then her attention will shift. This differentiates love and infatuation. The outer qualities become more important than the inner qualities.
It is a great distraction in the age when girls should concentrate on studies. In this age the boy is also not independent also doesn’t understands things fully. He is also under the same society pressure which the girl is.
Premarital se8
Gone are the days when there used to be platonic love. That was in the generation of our father and forefathers. Now a day’s losing virginity is very easy. With so much easy availability of adult rated things in the internet, every second relationship will end up in premarital s-x and that too unprotected one. Now it has almost become common to lose it early in age. It gives a feeling of achievement for both the boy and the girl. Their friends will in fact psychologically force them to do it and they are not able to understand it. In yesteryears virginity was something which was protected till marriage, but now it is not so. Especially in big cities with fast life it is so common.
Teenage pregnancy
Unprotected se8 is bound to lead to teenage pregnancy as girls are the most fertile in this age bracket. Though the nature says that once a girl starts her periods she is ready to bear a child but actually the body is not fully developed by then. In earlier generations marriage was early and so was bearing a child, but in those days girls were hardworking and so the body could cope up with that. Now the lifestyle is easy, girls hardly do any form of physical activity. Pregnancy in this age will bring physical complication which can lead to death also. Then there is still a social stigma attached to it and is still looked down upon on the character of the girl. Nothing is said about the boy.
Abortion or teenage motherhood
When they hide it long then the time for a possible abortion passes. Then there will be no other option but to continue the pregnancy. This puts a great emotional and physical burden on the girl. She herself is not mentally developed to take the responsibility for herself, let alone the child which she will bring to this world. The boy or his parents will cut themselves out of it, the maximum they will do is to bear the expenses of abortion. The relationship which she was so excited about will break and she will be alone to deal with the whole situation.
The teenage years are the formative years of life and will build the base for future life. Do you want to get entangled in these things and ruin your future? If you can wait for 10 years then you will be both ready career wise and will able to enjoy a relationship more. Now the relationship will be more matured and understanding and physical intimacy will be an informed choice.
I would like to draw your attention to a few things from the article. First, everyone is so loud when it comes to teenage motherhood. But, where is the father? What about a teen father who also participated in that sexual relationship that led to the pregnancy. The father bears half of the responsibility, and everyone blames only the mother.
Then, it’s not a problem that teenagers have sex, it’s normal. The problem is that they are not given enough knowledge on how to have safe sex. Parents think that it is a taboo topic and do not want to talk to their children. There is almost no adequate sex education in schools. Teenagers must get knowledge about safe sex in time, how to protect themselves, how to use a condom, how to take pills, what are sexually transmitted diseases, etc.
This type of knowledge would prevent unwanted pregnancies and thus abortions. Abortion is not a form of pregnancy prevention.