That little stain can ruin your dress. That small piece of glass can be the most difficult to remove from your foot. The point is the most dangerous person for you is not the serial killer you read in the newspaper, it is the common Joe or Harry you know so well. Then one day do something which makes you think how you missed this part of their personality.
The little things that you failed to notice, the weird look, the skewed reaction to something, the not opening up fully, and the subtleties that you missed. That someone will not attack you with a knife as the danger is much deeper.
But if we keep our eyes and ears sharp then we will notice those things, not the murderous one but the one who slowly steals you joy and happiness. These signs will give away such a person.
They are careful about maintaining appearances
Such people are super conscious about maintaining their appearance, be it in the form of appearing to be smart or capable or strong or whatever it is. They will protect their image at all cost at all the time. Such people will not be neutral and judge every action of others whether it is helping him keep his image or not.
They will often have unresolved issues
When some people have experienced some negative emotions and have not fully recovered from it can be dangerous. They may look normal outwardly until you touch the raw nerves. Unresolved issues can come out in many ways. Due to family issues a son may not come out as someone who is not proud of himself or his work or the woman who was cheated by the last partner and now cannot trust any man at work or in life. Such people will always look at things through eh lens of pain and may over react to something suddenly.
They love drama
This is the person who causes repeated strife among friends, and has been a problem in his family. People have often cut him out of all circles because of this but he will blame them only. They themselves don’t realize that they are at the centre of every relational strife. They are the type who will speak about others behind their back, and try to break budding romances among acquaintances. Wherever they go they leave a trail of emotional destruction.
They chose to speak out publicly
As these people develop insecurity and often a cowardly attitude so they try to compensate it by confronting others in public to compensate that feeling. They are actually scared to come out of their weakness and vulnerability. They are scared of not getting what they want and being at the receiving end of your disappointment. So more often they will let go of their emotion by creating a spectacle. They will not talk privately, one on one because they know they will lack the substance to talk and discuss so they will use this tactic to shock you.
Deception and justification
This deception and justification pattern is often used because more often than not you are in the receiving end of it and you will fall prey to it. And when you will understand and confront him, you will hardly get an apology, but a lame justification. If you continue to stay with him that means you are inviting more of it.
Refuse to take responsibility
Such people will not take responsibility for their actions or for those who m it impacted. For them all problems is someone else’s creation and in no way you can prevail on them to accept their fault.
You may no t find all these characteristics in all the subtly dangerous people but if you find one or two of such characteristics then you have to be careful of such person. Ultimately it is you who has to identify these signals and decide what you want to do.
Those point are so good.. You’ve covered it so nicely.. Keep it up dear