Are you a target of love bombing?

A relationship in a young age is like being in cloud nine; everything seems to be so perfect. All the attention and care and gifts and flowers make you feel that there can be nothing better in life. Girls feel like they are the luckiest person alive. You will enjoy each moment of it. But sometimes this can be the beginning of a toxic relationship.

But beware, are you a target of love bombing. It is a manipulation where you are just a target for conquest, nothing else.

Here you will be showered with a complete undivided attention and importance and will always feel overwhelmed by the behaviour and gifts. It will be such that you will never question your boyfriend and never doubt that you are being made a target for love bombing. The intensity of things should raise your doubt. You will see that he will get angry when he is displeased with something you have done or not done, or you will notice that he is angry when you will get attention from others.

Signs to take notice.

You are getting gifts too frequently and too costly.

Gifts are what girls expect from boyfriends and girls simply love getting gifts. You will be regularly showered with them. And those gifts can be costly also which you will know is beyond the means of your boyfriend. But still you will like receiving them as a sign of the depth of love. Seldom will you question. Also during your discussions if you tell that you like something then within the next few days you will get it as gift. Though you may feel elated but now you should get cautious also. Things are too good to be true.

You will always hear words that will make you feel good.

You will be showered with words that will make you feel that you are the most important thing in his life. You will hear words like ‘without you I am so incomplete’, ‘you are the reason for my happiness’ etc. Which girl doesn’t like hearing such things? The choicest adjectives will be used for you. And he will also expect the same from you and if you don’t do it then it will make them angry.

The boundaries will be slowly broken.

This will be all an emotional drama about how he got ditched in love previously and you are the true purpose of his living. Slowly he will plan trips outside with friends but they will not turn up for some excuse and both of you will be alone. You will be emotionally manipulated to take the relation to next level by giving the pretense of pure love. These things will happen regularly where you will find yourself alone with him. And at some point of time you will give in because you love him so much. You will think that you are hurting him by not listening to him. Even if you don’t want you will get sucked into it if you are not getting his intentions.

You will get isolated.

He will completely want you for himself and will not like you meeting and socializing with others, particularly male friends. He will try to false wrong pictures about your friends and will try to distance you from them. He will want that you just give your undivided attention to him and leave all others. He will use all types of manipulation for this.

The subtle change

You will start noticing subtle changes that he is slowly giving excuse to see you or talk to you. You will see that the gifts are drying up; the talks of love are reducing. You will see he is busy in other things with very less time for you. You will find him making excuses for everything. If you confront him then he will try to put the blame on you. He will then eventually give some reason to break up with you, for the purpose for which you were made the target has been achieved. Now it is the time to move on and find a new target for him. You will be left high and dry, emotionally broken and left to fend for yourself.

It is then only you will rewind the cassette and try to identify the signals which you ignored all through the time. But by then the damage has already been done. So always be cautious before blindly trusting anyone in love and be careful in that journey also. If something seems too good to be true then probably it isn’t.