Why does marriage turn sour?
I can't stop asking myself this question over and over again why are there many broken marriages? Why are there many broken homes? What happened to the first love? What happened to the love at sight? What happened to the sweet names the love of my life, my sugar candy, my worldbest? Up till now i havent found answers to these questions. I will like you to read and share your thoughts with me.
Have witnessed many stories on broken marriages and it always amaze me because I never believe love fades but to tell you the truth love truly fades. I met with a woman today telling me her story on the hardship and pains she is passing through in her marriage. The domestic violence she's been subjected to, her story really touched me because I kept on imagining where the love they started with went to. This is a marriage that starts with burst of romance and love then suddenly turn sour, a marriage with four[4] kids. I guess the man no longer see what he needs in her or she is doing what the man didn't want, I couldn't comprehend all my thoughts because it's left me speechless.
Why the sudden hatred?
Why do Everyhing change suddenly from love, laughter, joy and happiness to pains, sorrow, tears, depression and in the long run suicide? It takes tolerance, genuine love, patience and endurance for a marriage to work till old age, a marriage that both spouses can't tolerate each other will not last long, there will always be problem. Marriage doesn't work where there is no patience, there will be one or two things that has changed either in the man or the woman. It might be the character, mode of dressing, food, way of talking and lots more. Some don't have the patience to correct their partner or even overlook some of their wrong deeds which is very important. They don't correct their partner with love, they get aggressive over little things which is not suppose to be.
In conclusion
There is a lot to marriage than the saying "I love you" there are lots of things that has to back up the love you claim to have for each other. If these things aren't there the marriage cannot work out has expected, we should always remember that beautiful and wonderful first love we started with, those sweet names we call each other. Those attributes we see in each other must always be seen no matter what we shouldn't let them fade away because once we start to loose interest in each other that is the beginning of the problem in such marriage. If you call your wife "baby" before getting married please after the wedding continue to call her baby don't change it to mummy dolapo because she has born, if you call your husband sweety before you get married, after the wedding continue to call him sweety don't change it to daddy wa all in the name of he is now a father. Remember all the fun you use to have before getting married, play games, have fun, bring back the old memories of how your courtship looks like, share your thoughts with each other don't keep secrets because once you start keeping secrets that will raise suspicion and problem will begin to arise. Do what you are suppose to do for your partner at the right time and you will enjoy a peaceful home.
I hope you enjoy reading this and I will be expecting your comments in my box. Enjoyyy.
