It's natural to feel envy. It can happen anytime, anywhere, and for many reasons. Even if we don't think we're going to be envy, well for some reason, a sudden "ah if I could be like that..." feeling.
It could also be that we try to compare something at first, and then we become envious of something else.
We can have envy in different forms, in different degrees, and in different patterns. envy can appear in various segments of life such as career, work, friendship, relationships, social, material "status" and many others.
Envy can lead to negative things if we cultivate these emotions which then turn into emotions. But envy can be a positive thing when you can handle and direct it.
Being able to handle desires will depend a lot on us, including the effect it has on the people around us and our environment.
Being able to get rid of craving is ideal. Not everyone is born with ideal conditions or abilities that lead to ideal things. This is why one of the basic things we should know is the cause of our envy. Try to be friends with our logic, in addition to being friends with our hearts.
These two sides of logic and heart are very important for balance. What if one of them, logically or sincerely, can't be worked with?
In this case, it is better to start by calming down and not making or making any decisions.
Usually, emotions come up early, especially if we're already feeling envy for no reason. In general, we often find advice to be grateful so as not to feel envy all the time. This is indeed the most effective way, although sometimes it is not easy to get rid of cravings.
This is if we want to be honest you know..ha..ha.. Therefore, in my opinion, it is better for us to be able to manage envy which can be an expression of our gratitude.
If necessary, make a list of all the reasons or causes for envy before deciding what to do next.
We must know, what causes the envy that we have. Well, at least if you can communicate with yourself, it can help clarify what we want, what we hope for, our goals, and the impact our actions have on the people around us and our environment.
So when we find a reason why we are envy, what do we do? Will we continue to harbor this envy which can lead to negative things, or do we care to manage this envy into a positive thing?
Before moving on to the action planning phase, you can try to take some time to better understand your abilities. We can try to identify our strengths and what we can do to further enhance our strengths or build on our strengths.
We can then identify our shortcomings and what we want to do about our shortcomings. If we already know what our goals are, we can spot the gap between what we already have and what we need to achieve our goals.
But usually at this stage, many of us are lazy to do it, ha..ha.. Or think this step just takes time, is not important, or doesn't even know where to start and how.
Actually the steps to realize your own abilities are very easy and can be done anytime, anywhere, in any way. One of the conditions is that we must be honest and not deny ourselves. For example, we know and realize that we are not good at communicating.
But on the other hand, we then look for reasons to justify our shortcomings. “My communication is not good because I have never received training”, or “How can my communication be good if I don't live in a conducive environment?”.
This example is a form of self-denial. It is normal to know the background of this case. But if it is done continuously, we will not think and focus on solutions and steps to increase our capacity. In the end, we end up blaming ourselves, the people around us, and the environment around us for our shortcomings, which creates envy.
Another example, for example, we feel jealous of a colleague's success because he or she has been promoted or promoted. If we want to feed on envy, we'll end up with a bunch of gossip ha..ha..
We can try to identify the abilities and skills we can improve, the things we need to improve in ourselves.
Excessive envy can drain our energy and eventually make us tired. Describing and clarifying what we feel, the causes of our desires, and what our goals are, will help us restore our energy.
This can be very difficult to do on your own. We can ask a friend or close friend for help.
If you really don't want help from other people or parties, try to return to the stage of communicating with yourself, what are our goals, what are the reasons we feel jealous, the plan of Action that we will take then will allow us to achieve our goals and what influences our actions towards the people around us and our environment.
Although it tends to be negative, envy can become positive when directed towards something constructive. Know yourself better, do things for your personal growth, clarify your hopes and goals, and increase your personal motivation.
If this desire eats away at our hearts, takes away our logic, drains our energy, or does this desire become something that makes us better for them? We can get what we want. Everything comes back to us. The way we deal with emotions will make us mature and become better people.
