Mindset

One fact you must be able to deal with to have a mind of your own, to have a strong mind that stands against turbulent storms in your path is to deal with the fact that life in itself is not a bed of roses as it is filled with ups and downs. Nothing stays permanent. My dear readers; Happiness is temporary, Sadness comes and goes, Problems come rushing back and forth and we have absolutely no power to push them back except the driving force of a strong mind.

The mind of an average human being is exactly like a muscle. The more it takes in, the less your fears and worries of the unknown but the stronger you grow a tough skin against all odds that threaten your mental wellbeing.

Taking you on a journey to developing a strong mindset is the goal of this chapter. So why don’t we start from what a strong mindset is?. A strong mindset is a natural force that keeps you moving, that keeps you focused on your goals and ambitions without pausing for a moment because of a failure or quitting because of a setback. It helps you to understand that a struggle for achievements is unending and you are not a slave under the society’s dictatorship.

My dear readers, being a slave under the society’s dictatorship is in actual fact the most challenging factor that hinders you from getting a strong mindset to pursue your dreams. I want you to know that this particular factor is in your hands. It is your choice to be able to stand your ground against what other people say about your craft, your talents, your dreams, your ambitions and goals.

Ask yourself first. Am I happy with what I’m doing?. Do I have this special feeling of contentment while I’m at it on this particular craft? Do I not feel more fulfilling for the passion I have for this job than for the money I get paid with?. If all these questions bring a resounding YES from your heart then why will you allow negative criticisms against what you do to push you away from that which makes you happy?

The moment you hear or read from them and they say, “Hey boy, You are doing arrant nonsense”, “This thing you do stinks girl, why don’t you just stop?”, you are there already panicking, building your life already around what the society dictates to you, allowing your life to crumble with the fantasy the society has created for you when this has been, is and will forever be all about you and you alone.

It is what you love doing so much more than anything. You are you that you want, that makes you feel so amazing and wonderful more than anyone. Why should you let that be an obstacle for you? Why should it be a failure for you? Why will you let in negative thoughts from people to rewrite the fulfilling dreams you have chosen for yourself, that you have been thinking and so excited about? Will you allow yourself to get disconnected all of a sudden with the goals you have been working so hard to get for yourself.

Many a people think that other people in our lives influence a strong mindset. It is not at all true. Neither does anyone have the power to force a weak mindset on you. It is true that no one chose the kind of background or family to come from but every man is born with his own mind that can only be shaped by our willingness, our own formative perspectives and our determination to the life we desire to live.

If you are partying in a club with a friend and you get offered with a weed to smoke while they know you have never smoked before. Taking or not taking a drag from the weed is your own choice. If you decide to take it because your friends are pressurizing you to do it, that is surely a sign of a weak mindset but if you take it because you want to take it, because you feel it is right for you and not because they are on your necks forcing you, then that is a strong mindset.

My dear readers, I’m trying to break this to the barest form of understanding before we move together to the attributes and what to do to be on the right track of developing a strong mindset. Being strong minded has to with dealing with any failure or setback you encounter in the self-decision you make for yourself on every aspect of your life. It is not about you having regrets or crying bitter tears for your misfortunes. It is about you identifying your mistakes, your problems, the causes of your setbacks and going on all stronger on another hyper level to snatch at success and still moving on no matter what.

Let us all get it straight at this point that one of the core steps of getting off the hamster wheel starts from developing a mindset free of negative thoughts but of optimism for a better and fulfilling future that transcends settling for disappointments or failures that may lace our paths and journey.