Promises are a burden of conscience that will burden them to death. Therefore, if you are unable to fulfill it, it is better to remain silent.

When we make a commitment to something, we will be determined to give our best so that a promise is made. Words with strong and beautiful confession make someone believe in us.

Prospective husband or wife who wants to build a household. Making a sweet commitment or promise will make a beautiful marriage, be faithful to each other, make sweet dreams come true with our partners until only death do us apart

Promise when you have been accepted to work according to what you aspire to. Promise to work hard, be faithful to the work we do

A leader of a country or region who promises to the people and society that they will prosper, all guaranteed without obstacles.

There are many other events that we must pledge with a promise so that what we do is believed. Until one day, because of something intentionally or unintentionally, we have broken a promise that has been said.

How about those who have been victims of promises?

Husband / wife having an affair to hurt their partner. Finally, the promise that had been spoken before was lost because of betrayal. So that makes people who believe in us disappointed, hurt and angry

Easy to say hard to do

Boy : Hi, shall we meet tomorrow night? I promise to treat you. I'll pick you up. Don't forget to wear nice clothes and make up pretty, ok.

Woman: ok, I'll wait. As per your invitation I will do it

Boy: (tomorrow) Sorry, I can't keep my promise, I have important things that I can't stay

Woman : Why is that you already promised? yes come on!

From the example of the conversation above, it is easy to promise but it is also easy for us to deny it for any reason. Surely, those of us who received the promise were very disappointed

Sometimes many people slip up saying or inviting something and many also agree with the invitation, but in fact the person who invites it breaks a promise even though he didn't say he promised before. Promises are easy to say, so many people arbitrarily make promises. But many also break promises.

It's possible that the person you have an appointment with has prepared everything to keep your promise. Whether it's about their appearance, transportation or time preparation. Or maybe you have confirmed your promise and canceled other promises, which might be more interesting promises than yours. Imagine how it feels to have a "deal" promise with you, suddenly you easily cancel the promise you have made,

Husband / wife : I promise to keep this marriage, be faithful only to you, build a happy family

Husband / wife : One day he/she saw his partner being intimate with another couple. We as partners they are betrayed, hurt and our partners are sorry. Then promise to be faithful. But because we are too disappointed with our partner, we don't believe anymore

loss of trust in others when invited to an appointment. Your behavior and your character will indicate who you are in the eyes of others. When you make a promise even if it's a trivial thing and you break the promise, that's when you are no longer trusted with the person you made an appointment with. Maybe someone understands your nature, if not? Maybe he's reluctant to make promises to you again and you might be labeled a "liar"

Change your appointment at another time

As much as possible if we have broken a promise will cause disappointment in the person we broke the promise. Because of our mistakes, maybe he won't believe anymore. Arrange other plans and try not to break promises again. If you can commit, continue and if you don't apologize with all humility for canceling the promise so that he trusts you again

The kindness of a thousand can be forgotten just like that

One mistake can be remembered forever

The law of breaking a promise in religion

In Islam, a promise is something that is highly guarded, as long as the promise does not aim to sin and disobey Allah. Even promises to be held accountable. Besides the promise to be held accountable. Every Muslim is also strongly emphasized to keep the promises they have made. That is what Allah has commanded in the Quran and the Prophet in his hadith

Fulfilling that promise is a sign of one's faith because fulfilling a promise is obligatory and breaking it is a major sin and the perpetrator is considered a hypocrite and should not be trusted. The nature of breaking promises is proof that someone is not a believer, even if the skills of a pious person are like a beard and wearing a robe and a turban.

Everyone can certainly have contact with other people. Most likely you have experienced how bitter it is to be lied to by others by breaking promises. Indeed, breaking a promise is full of harm, many negative sides will arise as a result of breaking this promise. Allah will curse loudly and curse and inflict disaster on those who break their promises, whether they promise to Allah or promise to their fellow human beings.

Dealing with people who have broken their promises

A promise is a debt. The phrase describes how hard it is to say a promise. On the other hand, we often believe too much in a promise and always expect that promise to be kept.

But what if those promises are often not kept?

1. Decide what you want

So that you are not disappointed with other people's promises, you should just say what you want. What's even more important is how to make the person understand what you want. So he knows how to do it.

2. Set expectations

Promises and expectations are closely related. The higher the expectation of a promise, the higher the risk of disappointment. The tip is to avoid ambiguous things when other people make promises to you. You also need to ask for clarification that is specific to the person.

3. Ask for an explanation first

If the other person has not kept his promise, ask for an explanation first. Do not let you give negative accusations before the person gives the reason. This is very important because the person may be very busy or have to learn to prioritize.

4. Explain the effect of breaking a promise

Forgiving people who have broken promises

Forgiving someone who breaks a promise can be challenging, especially if that person is a friend, family member, or part of another close relationship.

A broken promise may feel like a huge betrayal and make you feel very angry with the person who broke the promise. However, holding a grudge actually has significant implications, both from a psychological and health perspective.

Plus, if you don't forgive them, you're actually hurting yourself more than the other person. That's why it's important that you learn how to forgive others while maintaining a reasonable level of tolerance.

• Accept the fact that everything has happened

• Focus on feeling comfortable and happy

• Release the tension you feel in your body.

• Discuss the problem with the person concerned.

• Reflect on self-development.

Release me annoyance

1. Practice showing empathy

2. Show you care, even if the person in question breaks his promise too often. If the person breaks their promises very often, consider what the person may have experienced in their life that makes them keep breaking promises.

3. Know the good things that arise from forgiving behavior.

4. Decide to forgive the person concerned.

5. Release the grudge and anger you feel. After all the preparations are done, it's time to let go of anger and resentment. Decide whether you want to tell the person in question directly or release the anger and resentment yourself

6. Rebuild trust by setting boundaries

Couldn't have hoped for a better past. But let go of what happened has happened. Now, what you need to focus on is the present and the future.

Accept the decision to forgive. Do not underestimate the benefits of forgiveness for mental health and do not underestimate the benefits of forgiveness for physical health.

May we always be surrounded by people who value every relationship that exists

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