No wife can attain Paradise without pleasing her husband by serving him. No woman can please God without her husband. Below are some hadiths about this.
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There is Tirmidhi Sharif, Hazrat Umm Salma Razi. Describes. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: A woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her will enter Paradise. (Tirmidhi Sharif, Hadith No. 1161)
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The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) saw a woman in Hell on the night of Miraj that she was being hung by her tongue (meaning she was pulled out by her tongue, tied to her tongue and hung). The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) asked Gabriel Did. What is the reason for this woman being punished? Gabriel A. Said, this woman used to speak obscene language with her husband and she used to hurt her husband.
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In another hadith, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Whenever a woman hurts her husband in this world, she will say, “O woman! Don't hurt him. May Allah destroy you! He is your guest (for a few days). Soon he will leave you and come to us. (Tirmidhi Sharif, Hadith No. 1164)
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In a hadith, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: When a husband calls his wife to bed. But she does not come and the husband spends the night dissatisfied with her, the angels continue to curse her every morning. This hadith has been narrated in another narration that a woman who spends the night leaving her husband's bed, the angels continue to curse her till morning.
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In another hadith, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, ‘By the One in whose hand is my soul, if a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses to come. Then from this state until the husband is not happy with her, he is dissatisfied with the one who is in the heavens (i.e. Allah Ta'ala). 'It is clear from all these hadiths that Allah cannot be pleased without pleasing the husband.
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It has been narrated in a hadith of Nasai Sharif that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Those women of yours are also in Paradise. Those who give birth to more children and love more. When the husband is angry or in a state of his own anger, she comes to him and puts her hand in his hand and says, "I am not enjoying sleep until you are satisfied with me." In this way she satisfies her husband.
May Allah bless our mothers and sisters to follow these hadiths, Amen.
Not at all time we need to surrender to our husband. We have also the right to turn them down if we don't want to.