How hard it is to become a parent

Have you ever appreciated your parents? If so, how did you appreciate them? And how sure are you that you really do appreciate them? So many questions indeed but admit it or not, not all of us care about our parents and not all of us are willing to take good care of them like how they did unto us. This article aims to discuss the sacrifices and love of our dear parents and hopefully become an instrument of enlightenment to everyone.

A person starts to become a parent if he/she has someone or something to take good care regardless if it is biologically from them or not. Most probably biological parenting is the best because that’s the most common and easiest way to discuss.

Our parents love us because we are part of them and we are the symbolism of their love in fact the moment they knew that they will going to have a baby every necessary preparation will likely done by them so that we came outside of the world and say hello to mommy and daddy with a healthy conditions.

The first sacrifice of a mother is the fact that she will bring her child inside her womb for 9 months and imagine how hard it is to regulate everything she needs to do most specially when it comes to foods, of course before she eats what she want she needs to consider her baby first if it will be good for her baby or not.

The second sacrifice is the obligations of our parents to keep us safe and provide every thing we need to survive starting from healthy foods, comfortable clothes and a house but these are just physical needs, we still have plenty of needs that they need to suffice, one of which is emotional needs , as a parent they are oblige to teach us on how to handle everything, they fulfill this need by simply giving their full trust and support to us, sometimes this is one of the thing we need though sometimes we can’t even feel it because we don’t want t to feel it because we are so selfish.

Financial needs is the third sacrifice of our parents, though we all agree that it’s not wise to enlist all of our parents sacrifices because these are all their obligations because they choose to build a family and by doing so they need to hug these responsibilities without complain most specially in financial aspect. However, if we are going to think of  it, isn’t it they also has an option to abort their child but they didn’t do that not because it’s against the church but because it’s against their will and because they are willing to give everything they could do that we can live a better life and soon after reaching adulthood we can be a better version of our parents.

The fact that they want us to become educated either they sent us to public or private school is one of the best examples that they really love us and not just they need to do so because we should be at school learning. Imagine those poor families, their parents were not educated enough because of poverty hence it’s too hard for them to find a good work and provide enough money to send their children to school and yet they still want to send them because they don’t want their offspring to become like them.

Think about the time when we got sick, does our parents just stand by and let us heal ourselves? No definitely not. Even a simple fever we had, our parents get worried and exerts too much efforts so that we can feel better ASAP. They don’t even care about how much will it cost them just to cure our illnesses. I personally experience this kind od situation wherein I was diagnosed with blood infection, my meds were so expensive and I knew that time that we can’t afford it but they still find a way because they love me, they value me more than the value of money. I thought that was  the very last crisis in our family but I was wrong because a year after, my elder brother was diagnosed with appendicitis and it needs to be remove ASAP but where the hell are we going to find sufficient money so that the operation will start as soon as possible? Thankfully the manager of my brother was a close friend of our family so he helps us to cover all the expenses needed for the operation and so it was a success.

I still remember the time when my elder brothers was accused by someone and sued for criminal offenses, the complainant were asking for 100,000 pesos in exchange of pulling back the case but my parents did not agree because we firmly believed that it was just a modus until we got a good lawyer who handle the case thoroughly. Then my father seeks the help and support of our brgy. Capt. Whom he help during the campaign period but all my father got from that bullish man is very big insult not just to my brothers but to our family but my parents still told us not to say a word because we cannot control other people’s mind so we keep on fighting.

At night I always overheard them crying because of what happened but I act like it was nothing, my mother almost got crazy overthinking of what will be the future of her two sons in prison. Thankfully we won the case and it was legally proven that it was just modus of the complainant to earn money.

With all of that experience I realize how much can our parents sacrifice for their children, and the answer is they can sacrifice even their own life for us.

For all of you out there, hug your parents while you still can, appreciate and take good care of them while it is still possible, say I LOVE YOU to them once in a while. Build more memorable memories with them because they won’t stay with us forever.