Forgiveness is the key

Has anyone hurt you to the point that you are no longer able to be happy? Then this article might be for you. You see, one of the joy stealers in our life is when we hold on to anger and pain for too long. Let me give you an analogy.

For example: A cup of milktea is quite light. He is light and if you hold that cup for 30 seconds it is easy or 3 minutes it is still easy. But it's different if you hold the cup for about 30 minutes, 3 hours, especially 3 days. It's probably numb and it hurts.

You see? What makes it painful? Actually is not the weight of the cup, not the weight of the pain and how severe the pain and anger. What actually makes it hurt is how long you hold onto it.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I'm not saying don't get mad. I'm not saying don't get hurt. I’m not invalidating your feelings. In fact, anger is not necessarily bad. In fact, anger is good. Why? Because anger is your spirit’s and natural defense mechanism whenever you are hurt.

Whenever you get hurt and angry, you get old. You don't seem to be valued, you are rude. It's actually your spirit's way of telling yourself that “Hey, you need to be loved, you need to be respected, you need to be affirmed, you need to be encouraged, you don't deserve to be treated like garbage and that's actually good . ” But here’s the lies, the problem, when you anger has protected you already, it should have an expiration. There must be an end to that because the longer you hold onto anger, it can actually be a poison to you. It will poison your soul because it will make you bitter. And your pain and anger will turn into resentment.

So, what is the solution? Its very simple. I challenge you and invite you to FORGIVE. Because only in forgiving will you receive and experience real joy.

For example:

Someone owes you money and then you are very angry because he did not pay the debt for a long time. And one day, you popped in your social media. You saw on your facebook or Instagram that the one who owed you was in Boracay. There is also a caption that reads "Enjoying the sun in Boracay." While enjoying it, there would have been no problem. The problem is you, risk date. You can fit your 500 pesos for the whole week. You have no money and here’s the one who has debt to you, enjoying Boracay.

So, you because that will ruin your whole day, you can no longer work properly, your whole day is ruined. But this is the question, who is the loser? You, you are so annoyed. Your day is ruined because the one who has debt on you is there, enjoying Boracay and then you have no money. It is very difficult for you to fit your money.

So, in the end, when you don't forgive, actually, you lose too. So, what’s my point?

Forgiveness is a natural gift from God for us to have real joy. One of the authors, Lewis Smedes, said "To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that prisoner is YOU." When you forgive, it’s actually a gift that you give to yourself. That's not for the person you forgave. And you might be saying right now “But you don't know what he did to me. He doesn’t deserve the forgiveness. ”

Well, that's exactly it. If we are talking about justice, nobody deserves our forgiveness. But I believe the real question is this… It’s not how much forgiveness the other person deserves. The question is how much joy? How much peace do you really really want?

So friends, do you want real joy in your life? Maybe anger is stealing your joy, resentment is stealing your joy. Only one solution, FORGIVE, SET FREE, LET GO and BE HAPPY.

Thank you for reading. God bless everyone!