Will You Do The Same?
What if someone did something bad on you, will you do the same?
Everyone of us has different attitude and behavior. We tend to treat each other differently based on what personalities we have.
When I was still in elementary, I usually got treated badly by my bully classmates. I experienced being called with insulting words like pig, fat, stupid, and among others. I admit, I was a fat kid before because I love to eat at a young age (even until now). I remember being body shamed whenever I'm defending myself upon something. That moment when I'm engaged in an argument with my classmates but then when they can't defend themselves anymore, they will just call me "baboy" or pig. With that, I will just end up leaving and never talked again, and when I have time, I will just go to the comfort room and cry.
Another instance is when I'm still in Elementary as well. Me and my classmate (a pretty rich girl) was playing with each other. That classmate of mine is very pretty and every boy in our room had a crush on her even if we are still too young that time as I remember that we were just in Grade 1.
Going back, we were playing with each other and had this win or lose game accompanied with a certain punishment. We are not yet very creative in thinking about punishments before so we just decided to just pull the hair of whoever will be the loser in our game. It was fun at first and I am winning for consecutive times that made my opponent/classmate a little bit annoyed with me and decided to pull my hair even if I didn't lose.
I am not pulling her hair that hard because I don't want to ruin her shiny and silky hair filled with cute and colorful hair clips, and given the fact that we are just a kid, I cannot hurt her that much.
Since she has many admirers before, the boys in our classroom decided to help her in pulling my hair. They united as one and I almost got bald as they really pulled my scalp badly. My teacher came and stopped the commotion and she saw me as if I fought with zombies since my hair was bad looking and my ponytail was hanging loosely on my hair. I can't remember exactly what happened next anymore since all of it happened a long time ago but, what I knew was that my classmates who treated me badly didn't make it to the guidance office because they were my teacher's favorite since their parents gave some gifts for their kids to not be punished.
I never told my parents about it since I am afraid of being scolded because they taught me not to engaged in any fight.
I still experienced several bad happenings before with others but I did similar approach. When someone treated me badly, I never did the same thing on them. I just defend myself kindly into words and I tried my best to educate them to not hurt anyone who never did something wrong towards them.
It's never been good and right to judge, insult, bully or hurt someone whatever the circumstances are.
It's also not good to revenge always in a bad way. The best revenge is to move on, trust God's plan to those who hurted us, be strong, and never hold grudges upon the person or situation.
Aside from that, respect should always be in our minds and our hearts. Respect everyone despite the behaviors they have. Be considerate and understanding because maybe someone has a bad attitude because he/she has a dark past. Those people who are victims of violence are most likely to develop violent behaviors as well. So, for me, when someone treated me in a bad way, I just give motivational words and never tried to fight back.
CLOSING THOUGHTS
There's a famous quote from an anonymous author who said,
"don't treat people as bad as they are, treat them as good as you are."
This is one of the quotes I am holding on whenever I'm in a bad situation with someone. Instead of treating them the same way just like what they did to me, I choose to treat them with a kind heart.
To show that we are not bad as them, the best way to prove it is to show kindness on them.
Author's Note:
This is my personal story and I hope you won't misinterpret the lessons I want to impart on your mind and heart. I never fought back before not because I am weak but, because I value my inner self. I don't want to stain my morality with such negative acts (though I wasn't that very very kind like an angel, just a balanced one). If ever that you will disagree on this, I respect your opinion wholeheartedly. But, I just want to remind you not to plant so much hate in your heart because that will never make you happy.
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Date Published: September 18, 2021
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Ang lala naman ng ginawa ng mga yun sayo sis. I was bullied too before. But the moment I reached the point that I couldn't take it anymore, I stood for myself. Since then, no one dares to bully me in school.