There's a Right Time for Everything: Stop the Jealousy

Jealousy is very common nowadays that it seems normal in every situation but, as much as possible, we shouldn't normalize it as it will break the happiness we deserve.

Nowadays, when someone's doing a great job, the other one will get envious and will do everything to throw shades upon someone. That seems common but, dangerous at the same time. Jealousy can harm everyone, that's what I'm sure of. Even if the bond seems strong between the other people, if jealousy intervene, that bond will soon break.

That's exactly what happened to the friendship of my brother and his best friend. They've been friends for how many years since college days and I can say that the bond between them is unbreakable before as they were both happy together with their other friends.

After graduating in college, they applied for a work on the same private institution as a high school teacher together with their other friends and classmates (when they were in college). To tell you honestly, they are both my former teachers before when I was still in senior high school in that institution. I observed everything clearly, the way they teach, and the way they treated each other as if they were brothers by blood.

But, things started to change when they both applied in public school. Here in our city, applying as a public school teacher is quite difficult because there's no assurance that the applicants will be accepted even if they have high points and even if they were included in the Registry of Qualified Applicants (RQA).

When they first applied in the public school, my brother's points was lower than that of his best friend. His best friend was so happy because there's a higher chance that he will be accepted in the public school unlike my brother. That best friend of him which was my subject teacher that time kept saying to us that next year (during that time) he will not be able to work again on the same institution as he claimed that he will be working in public school considering his points in ranking. On the other hand, my brother also looked forward to some possibilities but, instead of boosting around, he just kept silent maybe because he wasn't that confident enough with his points.

Days, months, and year had passed, my brother resigned from the private institution and move to another private school since his application in the public school seemed impossible to be granted. His best friend also experienced the same fate but, instead of resigning, he stayed on the same institution making the students confused about his words before.

Year had passed again, and their other friends were already accepted in the public leaving my brother and his best friend to be left behind. I don't know what runs on their minds that time but, my brother's best friend seems jealous about everything. He became aloof with their other friends even to my brother whose taking his masteral that time rather than wasting his time on jealousy stuff while waiting for his right time.

My brother still applied in the public school same through with his best friend, again.

Their friendship is slowly breaking and sadly, it's totally crushed now since my brother got accepted in the public school and the division office in our city is already requiring him to submit all the needed papers and requirements, while his best friend doesn't received any text message yet from the HR about his application.

His best friend's jealousy build up more and that makes them not talking with each other anymore.

My brother already achieved his goal and I'm proud of that as his sister, but, to his best friend, I don't feel anything bad about him as I know that his right time will come as well and there's no need to feel jealous about other's success.

It's not that I am biased but, I can't just ask my brother to apologize to his best friend as I know that he just followed and achieved his dream of becoming a public school teacher but, I want him to understand and be considerate about his best friend's feelings and emotions right now because maybe, he hasn't realized yet the value of friendship and the danger brought by jealousy/envy upon other's success.

I know, their friendship will never be back again into its original state but, I do hope that they will soon fix the feud happened between them and choose to save their sinking friendship over jealousy.

CLOSING THOUGHTS

Motivation and envy are different things. Some people look at other success and make it as their own motivation to succeed as well. Some are looking into other's success, and feel bad about it because they can't accept the fact that others are achieving their goals earlier than them.

There's a right time for everything, I greatly believe on that. Success has no timeline so we don't have to be envious when others are succeeding while we are still on the process.

Instead of being envious, let's motivate ourselves with the help of other's success. We deserve to be happy, and to feel that, we should stop the envy in our heart.

Author's Note:

Just to be clear, everything I wrote here is based on real life situation, meaning it is nonfiction. I hope you've learned something about this article especially about envy and jealousy. If ever that you're experiencing the same thing like that of my brother and his best friend, please, always choose your friendship over envy. You all deserve to be happy, and you can't have it if you keep on being jealous about other's success.

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Date Published: September 26, 2021

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