Let's face it, changing can be difficult, but it is necessary if you want to be in control again and be in the driver's seat of your life. There are three particularly important decisions you have to make if you want to be in control of your future. I know that these three decisions you have to make are not easy, but if you commit to starting today, you will begin to reap great rewards for the future. Are you ready for the challenge?
Here are the three most important decisions you have to make:
1. Decide to take full responsibility for your life.
The best decision you can make at this time is to take full responsibility for all facets of your life. Stop blaming others and stop playing the victim. Every time you decide to blame other people or events for your problems instead of looking within, you empower those people or circumstances.
How can you change things if you refuse to see your part in the problem? How can you improve your relationship if you put all the responsibility on him or her? When you can't acknowledge that you have some responsibility for the things that happen around you, you end up passively waiting for circumstances to change for the better instead of being proactive. It prevents you from acting as an engine of change in your life.
It is not easy to admit that you are responsible for everything that happens to you. It's hard to admit that you play a role in the unpleasant circumstances that you experience. Your ego prefers to be right and, as such, encourages you to blame external forces for your ills instead of accepting the fact that you may be contributing to your problems so that you will never experience positive change.
In what areas of your life are you dissatisfied? Are you taking responsibility for the situation in those areas? Decide today to put your ego aside and take full responsibility for your life. It is not an easy step to take, but you will love it when you see that you have the power to change everything bad for the better.
2. Decide to practice small daily habits.
Many people complain about their lack of willpower. However, this is not the real problem as willpower is limited and can only take you so far. In reality, adopting a new set of healthy and productive habits will create genuine change in you. By doing these activities daily, you will find that these habits can work wonders in the long run and, if done correctly, will eventually require little or no willpower to do.
Daily habits also create momentum that motivates you to practice new habits that will enhance your life. Not sure how to create and implement new habits? Here are some helpful tips on this topic.
Select a habit that doing every day has a positive impact on your life. It could be exercising, writing, meditating, or playing a musical instrument. It all depends on what your final goals are and which ones bring you the most satisfaction.
It starts small. Ask yourself this: If I do this activity for X amount of time, will I be able to do it every day, even when I'm sick, tired, or busy? If the answer is no, try to find something you can do in no time. Say you want to start meditating to reduce stress. Imagine that you are on one of your bad days and think how long you could bear doing that activity at that moment. If it's only 30 seconds, nothing happens. Consistency is very important, so commit to doing things that you know you can do, no matter how little time you do it. When it comes to forming new habits, "Consistency is more important than intensity." After a month or two, the habit will become relatively automatic, at which point you can spend more and more time on it.
Pick a trigger for the habit. For your habit to become automatic, you need to associate it with a specific action or event. For example, you may decide to meditate right after waking up, in which case is waking up serves as your trigger. Triggers are essential, as they will play a huge role in automating your habits.
After a while, your habits will become so automatic that you will do them almost without realizing it. Starting small is a very powerful technique that offers amazing long-term results. Starting a habit is not such a difficult thing to do, but it is not easy to start, which most people don't start. Join the minority that does and start seeing remarkable changes occur in your life. So what habit are you going to start today?
3. Write down your goals
One of the best things you can do is take some time off to set specific goals that you want to achieve in each area of your life. Setting clear goals sends a signal to your subconscious mind to tell it where its focus should be. Your subconscious is a powerful machine that works better at seeking and finding opportunities than your conscious mind. You have to write your goals on paper to take the abstract contents of your dreams into the real world from that moment on.
Making clear decisions about what we want to achieve allows us to have the power to actively initiate a movement toward our goals rather than passively waiting for circumstances to change or for something to solve our problems magically. You become the owner of your destiny.
Setting goals is also a great opportunity to reflect on your values, which means knowing what is most important to you and what you want to achieve in your life. By ensuring that your goals align with your core values and what is important to you, you will be able to set goals that truly inspire you and make you jump out of bed every morning. You will not waste time chasing after things that don't matter to you, nor are you going to be fooled by the illusory and fleeting happiness that empty achievements provide.
Why not take some time today to create a list of goals and decide what you want for your finances, health, career, relationships, or lifestyle in general?
if you are grown enough than you should have to take your full responsibility. because it's the time when you have to support your parent their responsibility. nice , good work 👏👏👏