Recognizing the Small Figure in Adults

Being an adult is not easy, because it doesn't depend on the number of ages. Because the number of ages only shows how old we are, not how mature we are.

Maybe we have met the personality of a child who is trapped in an adult's body, or in other words, this adult has a personality like a child.

And the term we hear for this problem is called the inner child.

Inner Child is a number of memories and feelings that we have experienced at the developmental phase in childhood.

So even though our bodies are mature and aging, the childish nature still exists in us. This usually happens because of past disappointments and wounds or unfulfilled hopes and desires.

Then is having an inner child bad?

As we know, that this world always has duality. So for the case of the inner child itself, each has its own advantages and disadvantages.

If managed properly, this inner child will have a positive impact.

As :

• Never give up.

• High curiosity.

• Always energetic.

• Make up quickly when angry.

• Honest.

• Spontaneous.

And the downside is:

• Compulsive.

• Irrational.

• In a hurry.

• Childish.

• Easily offended.

Then how is the process of forming this Inner child?

To explain it we will borrow Erik Erikson's theory.

Erik Erikson is a German psychologist who is best known for his theory of the "Eight Stages of Human Development."

And we can see the division of these stages in the following list:

1. Trust vs Mistrust (0-1 years)

   Feel safe, in control.

2. Autonomy vs Shame (1-3 years)

   Opportunity to explore and become independent.

3. Initiative vs Guild (3-5 years)

   Support, appreciation and guidance for trying.

4. Industrial vs Inferior (6-11 years)

   Validation, competence, achievement and recognition.

5. Identity vs Confusion (12 - 19 years)

   Formation of self-identity and self-knowing.

So, if seen from the table above, it can be concluded that every child has its own developmental phase and if it is not fulfilled, it will cause inner wounds that form the inner child.

So don't be surprised if we see an adult figure, who is so distrustful of himself and others.

Contrary to the previous list, the bad effects of unfulfilled parenting are as follows :

• Mistrust is identified as a feeling of distrust.

• Shame and doubt.

• Guild is excessive guilt.

• Inferior, feelings of inferiority.

• Confusion, confusion about yourself.

Well friends, after reading this article, are there any of these characteristics in you?

If it turns out that you also have an inner child, then it is very important to immediately seek healing. If self-healing feels heavy and doesn't have a positive impact, you can ask for help from experts.

I wish you the best of conditions there. peace greetings all, hopefully always happy, yes! God bless👋🏻🙈

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