You can see that this question has destroyed the life of many people.But I think if you have the enough nerve you can become a example for all.But for this you have to give importance to yourself you have to care your thoughts and never blame yourself.
Make your life example for other and prove yourself that you are not a shy people you know how to live life successfully.
You have a spirit that nothing is impossible in world and think yourself only and forget others while doing any work because at that time you are your best friend and best carer and supporter of yourself.
Make other people appreciate your work and become a motivation for them and they will follow your rules of managing a life.
People in life are there to demotivate you because they have their own concern from you when they get their benifit the leave you so it's better to stop their entry in your life.Be self carer of yourself and select your own way to live life.
Exactly some people will leave something right and did the wrong thing all because of what people will say. They are not God