You have to be on your own—not because you deserve to be with yourself alone, but for the reason that sometimes, the people whom you can lean on will also have such hard times to face. They will feel empty, too, and will be needing some help. And if there will come a time when all of you are going through something at the same time and can't be of rescue for each other, you have to stand up on your own feet, get your own back, and be there on your own being without having a heart filled with hate just because no one is there for you.
I want you to understand that everyone of us gets tired and trying our best to endure our own battles and pain, so be present for your own self at the time being—and meet those persons you love at the end of the tunnel you are all in.
“There's no need to rush. Whatever is meant for you will always arrive right on time.-Mandy Hale”
Be comfortable in your own skin.
Know who you are.
Understand deeply that what people do is never a reflection of you and is always their perception of life.
You are not for everyone and they are not always for you.
When you are not included, invited, or considered, whisper to yourself, “Thank you for the space necessary in my life for the people that matter most to me. I am blessed.” 💚
Everyone has insecurities. When you show yourself in the world and display your talents, you naturally stir up all kinds of resentment, envy, and other manifestations of insecurity. This is to be expected. You cannot spend your life worrying about the petty feelings of others. With those above you, however, you must take a different approach: When it comes to power, outshining the master is perhaps the worst mistake of all. Do not fool yourself into thinking that life has changed much since the days of Louis XIV and the Medicis.
I am a true believer that life always gives us what we need. Perhaps it's not always what we would like to receive but if we respect life's gifts and let them be with us, it will certainly guide us to something worth travelling to. Resisting our reality only creates struggles and misery.
If we accept what we've got and choose to do better, we can achieve much better results and happier life. I always remind myself that it's not where we came from, but where we are going to, that matters the most.
Believe in yourself, believe that you can handle any situation. Believe that you are never alone. If nothing else, you are supported by generations and generations of your ancestors.
Just imagine, how strong they had to be to survive their challenges, to raise their families, to dream and work hard for you to be here. Imagine their strength, their power, their pride that their family line continued so far into the future. Use this power if you ever feel tired of going. Replenish your faith, your belief, treasure your goals and dreams, and work towards them. Quiet often, it's not about the destination, it's about the journey. Enjoy it, start where you are, do your best, repeat.
Keep smiling and believe that the best is yet to come. Good Night 💤🌙
😊 Sweet Dream
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"Sometimes life doesn’t give you what you want, not
because you don’t deserve it,
but because you deserve
so much more"...
“There's no need to rush. Whatever is meant for you will always arrive right on time.-Mandy Hale”
Be comfortable in your own skin.
Know who you are.
Understand deeply that what people do is never a reflection of you and is always their perception of life.
You are not for everyone and they are not always for you.
When you are not included, invited, or considered, whisper to yourself, “Thank you for the space necessary in my life for the people that matter most to me. I am blessed.” 💚
Even if the world won't treat you any better, never do the same treatment towards yourself. The universe may punish and beat you to pulp, but do not torture yourself more. Take good care of your being—there will be times that your best comrade will only be yourself; do not take her for granted.
I know some people just won't understand, but some days, I prefer the silence. The lack of conversations. Moments where I can allow the thoughts to drown me so I can sleep at 2 AMs. The sound of the rain.
Sometimes, I wonder how the world could be so busy yet quiet at the same time. I sit somewhere random and just let the world spin without me moving, not an inch, as if I'm stuck like it always seems.
You see, some days I just want to stay still. To feel. To assure myself that everything falling apart hasn't numbed me down yet.
Sometimes peace comes in the form of accepting that life isn't turning out the way you thought it would....By accepting this you aren't giving up on anything necessarily, but you ask yourself deeper questions. Is what's happening simply a life situation or is it my life? Most often the things that upset us are life situations. They are challenging and they are of relative importance but no situation is of utmost importance. Ask yourself if you need to do anything or is this something that's out of your control? If it requires action, take a step back and look at the life situation for what it really is. Because our thoughts tend to start up a hyperactive narrative and turn a very simple situation into a huge situation. When you step back for a moment, and you ask yourself if it needs action, then yes, you start using your mind to think again, but now your thinking starts from awareness. I hope you give it a try, it has changed my life and I believe it will change yours as well.
“Happiness doesn't lie in conspicuous consumption and the relentless amassing of useless crap. Happiness lies in the person sitting beside you and your ability to talk to them. Happiness is clear-headed human interaction and empathy. Happiness is home. And home is not a house-home is a mythological concept. It is a state of mind. A place of communion and unconditional love. It is where, when you cross its threshold, you finally feel at peace.”
"Your future self loves you. they will look through old photos of you with affection, not disgust, nor embarrassment.
they wish they could tell you stories of your future, of how much you’ll change, of the people you’ll meet, of how you’ll eventually learn to accept yourself, then love yourself.
They will read your diary entries and poems and favourite lyrics, heart aching, tears in their eyes. if only you knew...
Your future self loves you. If only they could show you. they are living proof. You’ll turn out okay after all. They wish they were there to console you, dance with you, and make you write it a hundred times: 'I AM LOVED.' they will listen to playlists you made, just to experience you again.
They will write you a letter - of forgiveness, longing, reassurance. you will never read it. but you will know." — Unknown
Pat randomly on your shoulder & tell yourself that "it's okay."
Even if you don't know what it's for or what is going to be okay.
Sometimes all we need is a pat on the back and someone to say—
That it's okay if we sometimes fall for the wrong people,
That it's okay to lose trust in someone but not entirely in everyone.
That it's okay if sometimes we fail at certain things in our careers and lives.
That it's okay if sometimes we have no idea how we're going to live our entire lives, and don't have any clue about solving our little & bigger problems.
That it's okay if we occasionally hit our toes on the bed, because our mind is not coping with us. It has all these unnecessary thoughts that are confusing us.
That it's okay to not have a clear vision of the day or life.
That it's okay if you don't have your day figured out.
What's not okay is to give up on yourself. Make the same efforts for yourself as you would for those you care about. They are only going to praise you & be thankful to you. But you will make changes in your life by making efforts for yourself.
Sometimes peace comes in the form of accepting that life isn't turning out the way you thought it would....By accepting this you aren't giving up on anything necessarily, but you ask yourself deeper questions. Is what's happening simply a life situation or is it my life? Most often the things that upset us are life situations. They are challenging and they are of relative importance but no situation is of utmost importance. Ask yourself if you need to do anything or is this something that's out of your control? If it requires action, take a step back and look at the life situation for what it really is. Because our thoughts tend to start up a hyperactive narrative and turn a very simple situation into a huge situation. When you step back for a moment, and you ask yourself if it needs action, then yes, you start using your mind to think again, but now your thinking starts from awareness. I hope you give it a try, it has changed my life and I believe it will change yours as well.
Stop replaying the past in your mind.
It's gone.
Use your mental energy to manifest something new.
Don't waste your precious life force being stuck on what didn't work out or what you could've done.
Do something new today.
Each moment is another chance to recreate yourself.
I didn't stay on "what ifs" for so long; if I did, I would be drowned already—it's too much to bear. I didn't wait around "what could have beens", too; if I chose to, I would have been long gone. But that didn't mean it never crossed my mind—I think about those, too. It's just that, I don't dwell on it, for it will never change the past. Regrets of the past will just torment my present self, so I let it stay on the part of my life where it happened.
Instead, I look forward to tomorrows—to what is yet to come, to what still awaits me. If I remained on what's left behind, I will also be the same thing as it is; abandoned. So I move forward, accept everything, and try my hardest to heal the little wounds I still have from the experience.
Reasons why you should Read Books;
1. It helps you to travel around the world in the cheapest way.
2. Develop your communicating skills.
3. Books help you build literary talent.
4. Books entertain your mind.
5. Books bring about a 'personality change'.
It's okay to take some time to rest your body, mind and spirit as you continue on your journey towards your ultimate destination.
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Yes, it's important to hustle, grind and push but sometimes the best thing you can do is just sit still for a few moments, take it all in...gather your own thoughts and feelings and prepare yourself for your next battle!
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Don't get discouraged because you are feeling tired or need a rest, that is all very much a part of the journey of life and just because you need to rest & recover doesn't mean things aren't working out or that you need to change course or give up!
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Taking a few moments to let yourself recover and re-energize is the best way to stop yourself from burning out or getting over it after a period of time....The goal is to keep moving forward, to keep making progress over an extended period of time!
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Rest if you must, give yourself time to heal and re-tool and re-focus then saddle back up and hit the road for the next leg of your journey.
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Keep Believing and Keep moving forward!
You never have to prove yourself or explain yourself to anyone.
Never. Ever.
Simply be true to yourself, of course without harming others, and wish people well who misunderstand you. 🌿
It's okay. Let people misunderstand you.
The person who matters most in your life is the one looking back in the mirror. 🔍
Have you ever felt your life is broken beyond repair, have you ever thought there is no way to get out of the mess you are in?
We are humans and sometimes we feel that way. We tend to doubt all possibilities of light at the end of the tunnel, we see problems or pain as what might put an end to our lives.
During those moments in your life, when you are down, when it seems it's all over and there is no chance of survival, all you have to do is Give it all to God. Give Him a chance.
He is still in the business of taking broken pieces and turning them into master pieces.
Nothing is beyond repair when God is involved.
Miracle happens when you allow God to work.
For out of the dust, you will rise, and Out of the darkness, you will shine.
Something great can still come out of you, all you have to do is GIVE GOD A CHANCE.
"Don't change so people will like you; be yourself and the right people will love you."
To find true happiness we must be true to ourselves, live our own dreams, and be proud of what makes us unique instead of feeling the pressure to follow the crowd.
When we are comfortable in our own skin, we are not fighting against or with anyone, as we've discovered our own true nature and are living in accordance with it. We are courageous enough to live our own truth.
The ancient meaning of the word courage is "tell the story of who you are with your whole heart."
Here's why you should not GOSSIP.
In Ancient Greece, Socrates had a great reputation of wisdom. One day, someone came to find the great philosopher and said to him:
- Do you know what I just heard about your friend?
- A moment, replied Socrates. Before you tell me, I would like to test you the three sieves.
- The three sieves?
- Yes, continued Socrates. Before telling anything about the others, it's good to take the time to filter what you mean. I call it the test of the three sieves. The first sieve is the TRUTH. Have you checked if what you're going to tell me is true?
- No, I just heard it.
- Very good! So, you don't know if it's true. We continue with the second sieve, that of KINDNESS. What you want to tell me about my friend, is it good?
- Oh, no! On the contrary.
- So, questioned Socrates, you want to tell me bad things about him and you're not even sure they're true? Maybe you can still pass the test of the third sieve, that of UTILITY. Is it useful that I know what you're going to tell me about this friend?
- No, really.
- So, concluded Socrates, what you were going to tell me is neither true, nor good, nor useful. Why, then, did you want to tell me this?
"Gossip is a bad thing. In the beginning it may seem enjoyable and fun, but in the end, it fills our hearts with bitterness and poisons us, too!"
Are you living every moment of life?
Living a moment means that you embrace that moment of life and are fully present both physically and mentally.
One of the reasons why we lack joy in life is that our minds and body are not in the same place all the time. Thinking of the past or worrying about the future is why we never make it entirely in our present. When we are not fully present, we neither enjoy the moment nor the company of the people we are with.
Learn from your past, prepare for your future but fully live the moment. This is the only moment you truly have. Make it worthwhile.
Don’t you think it’s unfair for ourselves to ask other people if we’re worth it or not? Like when they fail to check on us throughout the day we’d think we aren’t worthy of their time. If they try to hide us from the world we’d think we aren’t worthy enough to be proud about. If they run away before we could even hold their hand we’d think we aren’t worth the risk. When they refuse to know us deeper, we’d wonder if the things they saw from the shallows weren’t worthy of a deeper dive.
Don’t you think it’s wrong to let someone, who doesn’t know everything you’ve been through, decide if you’re worthy or not? To let someone who doesn’t know your every struggle to reach where you are today, your every scar to be as tough as you are now, your every rabbithole and how you got out of it to declare your worth?
Really, your value shouldn’t depend on how much they value you. Your worth shouldn’t be asked nor doubted in the first place. It’s given. You’re worth it even before you meet them. You’re worth it when you’re with them. And you’re still worth it even when they choose to leave. You’re worth it with or without them and you’ll always be.
I have no intention of giving up.
But I hope, this won't sound selfish If I'll tell the world today, "I just need one day."
One day without pain and fear of what's going to happen if I pursue my dreams.
One day without failures and expectations.
One day without the pang of my past that still haunts me.
One day without fake smiles and only pure happiness.
One day without shooting stars and only millions of gleaming chances.
I want that. I am deeply longing for that.
Just one day of peace inside my heart.
Because I think,
we all deserve to feel a little lighter.
Even if it is just for one day.
Affirm this:
“I will finish school. I will get a stable job. I will invest my own money. I will build a successful business. I will have my own place. I will spoil my love ones. I will have my own loving family. I will be successful.”
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☁ Sleepy ☁
Good Night 💤🌙
😊 Sweet Dream
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I have loved. I have lost and I have changed. It has been difficult but I have learned so much from it. I have learned that people can hurt you so deeply and not even worry about you. I learned that good people can change in a minute when their hearts have been broken. I’ve met great people, but mean people as well. But the most important thing I have learned is that every person in this world is strong enough to let go, when they need too.. People come and go and that’s life! The most important thing is to stand up and realize that you deserve something better than a person who gives up on you.
And you wonder who can be named a favorite person, maybe someone who left the whole world and came to be there for you, someone who wouldn't speak big words yet he would do big actions, maybe that person you would fight with sometimes, you'd hate in many, but you know nothing will change between you two, maybe someone whom you can share with anything even if it's dark, foolish or repeated, someone who knows you at heart, knows the things you don't say, your fatal weaknesses, your destructive doubts yet he chose to stay, someone who drew a book of memories tht can't be repeated, forgotten, someone who will always wish you the best, who will dream to see you a better person, someone you can spend hours with without having the feeling you have to go home,because that space is home, a favorite person is your true north when you are lost.
i find myself being okay to be left behind, to be the last person in a queue, to be someone who walks behind a crowd. many people have asked me why i am not keeping up with them, and i don't understand that idea for the past years until recently. i love walking through every corner of the street, i venture some unknown routes and sometimes i get lost but i eventually find my way back and discover new perspectives. i love observing motions around, how the rain drops on the ground, how the sun sets and rises, how the moon reveals itself, how stars perfectly create constellations, how waves bash the shore, how wind brushes the trees, how birds hum, how every single, little, small thing creates life around. i always enjoy watching how every single thing makes up beauty without being afraid of leaving the crowd.
i am not in a hurry, i am here but will eventually get there. i am learning to be okay with the process. i take my time, i breathe often, i am learning how things work for me. i think of how i am going to adjust from my gustoes, if necessary. i believe i am a work in progress, i believe in my own season.
i just need to walk, explore, enjoy and live life. i may be a very solo person but i am not lonely, just a sentimental one.
Fruits only give their juice when squeezed, you can never know how strong you are until being strong is your only option.
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Life is filled with tests, and sometimes those tests weigh you down, they make you weak, you feel burdened, you get tired, sometimes you cry, and sometimes you are discouraged.
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But what if these tests are meant to make you better and not bitter, what if they are meant to bring out the best in you and not the stress in you?
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Like it or not, as long as you are in this world, You are going to be tested, you are going to go through trials and struggles, you are going to face a lot of pressure, you are going to experience betrayals and disappointments.
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But always remember, all these are meant to reveal what you are truly made of.
You can't walk up the mountain and your legs won't be stronger, You can't go through fire and not shine.
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The difficulties in your life have not come to destroy you but to help you release your hidden potential, and that only happens when you let it.
WAYS TO GAIN PEACE OF MIND. 🧘♀️
🌻 Cut all your communications from Toxic people.
🌻 Kill the mindset that all people who loves you cannot leave you.
🌻 STOP trusting words, Trust actions instead.
🌻 STOP being available to all. Start being available to yourself.
🌻 DON’T Rely your happiness to others.
🌻 STOP responding to texts or calls thats giving you mixed signals.
Day by day, it gradually dawned to me that I am not remarkable. Friends often lose their sight of me as I can be easily ditched off — be replaced with no sweat, and each time it happens, I force myself to believe that it is okay since that's how I live through after being abandoned. Oftentimes, it made me ponder that maybe I am as good as gone — disappear in this world without a trace, and perhaps that would benefit everyone including myself.
Sometimes, it is terrible not to stand out whenever I desperately wanted to be remembered. It's not difficult to shout that “I am here” but to let them feel it. I am sick of being the one not chosen, the one who's in downright ostracism, the one who's always got to suffer the jealousy, sadness, and anxiety.
I question myself everytime. Am I not good enough or I just simply don't have a friend that assures I am belong? Nonetheless, after all of these questions that frequently result in silence, it became simpler to blame that it is all my fault. Because if I try to assess myself of where I am good at, I could directly tell that they cannot stand it. They cannot tolerate me as I am quite and withdrawn. Perhaps, no one wants to befriend someone who's at the corner trying to disappear but genuinely wanted to stay if someone could make me.
It wouldn't hurt to be a home to someone who's lost, right?
@Aalia
