Surrender is the key to break out of the repetitive cycles in your life

When we are in the middle of a difficult experience, everything happens as it should, even if it doesn't feel like it! As long as we run around asking "why?" and looking for the culprit, we don't get the teaching we need and we keep living similar stories because we can't learn.

As long as we make sentences that start with "Why me?", we remain stuck in a vicious circle.

We are not here to question the size of the picture!

We came to live it step by step!

Therefore, when we look back, the scenes of our lives make more sense. Everything happens exactly as it should. If it shouldn't have happened, it wouldn't have happened.

But if I had done this,

But if I hadn't done that,

I shouldn't have gone,

I shouldn't have stayed,

If I hadn't run,

If I had stopped,

If I had stayed

I am sure the list is long according to everyone's experience... And unfortunately, we carry our lists to our next relationships and jobs without realizing it. Yes, we carry them without realizing that we are carrying them and our cycles start over and over again to complete themselves. Then it gets messy and we start to feel like the world is against me.

I have heart-opening news: LIFE, THANK GOD, IS NOT AGAINST ANY OF US! We are part of it, how can it be against us?

Last year I planted my cactus next to another flower and for a year it was so beautiful and vibrant, I can't tell you. This year it started to wither and I couldn't save it no matter what I did.

I always talk about the elegance of a flower's fading and blooming in trainings and lectures. Where does grace come from?

When we give ourselves completely to the experience, when we become the experience itself rather than the doer of the experience, grace appears.

Experiences don't carry over to the next stop and we can gracefully welcome the surprises of each experience.

Whether it's the way you do yoga poses,

Whether it's the way you leave a job or a relationship,

Whether it's the way you start a relationship,

Add whatever you want to add here,

But if there is no grace,

surrender will not appear either.

Without grace, the cycle will keep coming in and out of your life in different forms to complete itself again and again. The key act of grace is actually surrender. Most of the time, surrender is thought to be accepting whatever happens to you. However, surrender lies in accepting what happens when it is appropriate, doing your best to change what happens when it is appropriate, and more importantly, seeing the difference.

If life presents you with an experience, it probably has something to tell you. No, life is not out to get you, but developing the willingness to see what is happening in order to see what it wants to teach you is very valuable.

Usually when I am faced with a difficult, exhausting experience, I try to see what life is trying to tell me without succumbing to Özde's tendency to create drama. Is there anything I can do? And if so, what? When I make the distinction, then the truest practice begins: Surrender.

I know, surrender is a big word, but if you don't have any health problems, you do it involuntarily with every filling and emptying breath.

We don't inhale, the breath fills and we don't exhale, the breath empties. With every emptying breath we don't know, will the breath be full? But still we surrender, do you realize? Why don't we try the same in life! We already have this knowledge!