Don't leave me alone

July, 01, 2022. | No. 83

Hello, dear friend of Read!

Many times we hear the end of stories. Someone who passed away from a terrible disease, a person who went to extremes, someone who hurt another person, etc. We always pay attention to that, the end, but not the process.

One of the things that drives me to write is to bring a message to someone, to reach that person who needs it. For me, Read Cash is not just a place where I publish things. For me it's a means of expression, but also a blog where I can help make a change by helping people.

Some of the things I write about are based on my experience, or because they are topics that catch my attention. And today, I want to write about a topic that I went through a while ago, with someone I care a lot about.

One of the sides of the coin of society: The lack of help, from our family and friends.

This can refer to many aspects of our daily lives. It can be that someone requires help for a problem, or simply for a situation in concrete. Being the first one the main basis of my post.

Many times we see cases of anorexic kids, on TV, among our friends or relatives. It is something very common nowadays, having a "perfect" body, is the main concern according to the new trends. So let's suppose we have a family member who goes through this problem, or some disease like diabetes.

According to what I have observed, there are 3 relevant things regarding what implies the help we give to that person in need. So here I show them to you, hoping that they can help you.

They do not recognize the problem.

We always judge the decisions of others, we ask ourselves why. But we don't realize one factor. Which, I confess, I had not noticed either. And that is that many times, people cannot recognize their own problems.

It's as if they were in a different reality. Seeing everything from a point of view where everything is totally coherent, even though the reality is a very different one.

So, it's an important thing to consider. Maybe taking into account that that person doesn't realize that they have a problem, we can look for ways to help them.

In addition to that, it is also an indicator that something bad is going on. So it can be taken into account, in order to make decisions in a timely manner.

Family support.

It is said that the family is the basis of society, and yes, it is. But it is also the basis of our lives. A good upbringing will forge good people, and the proper care of our families will help us deal better with life's situations.

However, in this, we often fail. Sometimes we have the bad habit of ignoring that person who complains, just because we find it annoying, or because we think he or she is exaggerating. But no, someone who complains, needs help, in some way.

So we need to pay more attention to that person. Looking for ways to help.

We also focus on everything but our family, we put it aside. We work, study, exercise, go out with friends. What about family dinners? Evening conversations? Spending time together? "No, for that, I don't have time. That can wait."

But you're wrong! There won't always be time, and maybe many of the things you put off, won't come back. You won't be able to do them.

I know that sometimes we want to "sacrifice" some things in order to get everything done. When in reality, we just have to get organized and evaluate what our priorities really are.

So being there is important. Plus it may be that time you share with that person that encourages them, or saves them from the abyss.

Arguments aren't an option.

When we don't like something, sometimes we argue, yell, scream, nag. When we don't need to.

So support is not an "I told you so", because just saying it is not enough. We have to encourage, look for solutions or other options. We have to be creative in order to help that person.

Even if sometimes we want to say a thousand things, or pull the person by the ears. We have to think with a cool head, and see what is the best way to communicate.

So that if we need to talk seriously, we do it with the appropriate words. No insults, no humiliation, no comparisons, no making the other person less. Just speak from an objective point of view, always helping.

But, if you don't know how to do it, you can seek help for it.

Seek professional help.

We already recognized the problem, or at least we have an idea that it exists. We are there, supporting and sharing quality time with that person. However, there is one step that is extremely important.

That is professional help.

Problems often cannot be fixed at home. At least not those related to health. Sadness, depression, acne, hives, headaches, fainting, extreme thinness, obesity, and others, require professional help. And it cannot be underestimated.

Many people see professional help as the last option, because it is expensive, because it takes time, or because of lack of confidence.

But let me tell you one thing: These problems cannot be solved at home.

You can't, unless there is a professional in the field among our family members.

So we must stop thinking that things will solve themselves. Because it won't. If you have to go to the doctor, or to the psychologist, nutritionist, gynecologist, you simply have to go. Likewise, if someone in your family or friends has to go, but doesn't feel like it, or doesn't think it's important, accompany them.

Find a way to persuade them, encouraging them and telling them how important it is. Even getting routine checkups can help, not only if someone shows signs of a health problem. But for every person in the world.

Because it is better to prevent, worry and take care of the health of our body, not only on the outside, but also on the inside.

Conclusion

There can be many ways to help a person. So here are three that for me are the most important.

This is for everyone, family, friends, or acquaintances. It is directed to that person who sees the problem from another perspective. It is directed towards the person who knows that the problem exists and does not know how to help.

So today I say to you: ACT.

Because life is not eternal, so the people we love the most will always be with us. So if we want them to be with us for a long time, then we must be part of the solution, not part of the problem. 

With all this, I am not saying that it is the entire responsibility of others for what happens in the world. But we do have a degree of culpability in it. Because when we can do something, many times we don't do it.

I hope it helps, and if you have anything to add, the comments are always available to debate, discuss, or add more information. Just remember, don't leave it alone.

Zul Airan Mujica Frontado (@zulfrontado) | Venezuela.

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